- 7 years ago
DISCLAIMER: This is not a thread to discuss or debate pro-life / pro-choice. I’m forwarning everyone that I will flag posts that try to turn this thread into an abortion debate and ask for the comments to be deleted. If you want to debate abortion – start another thread.
Disclaimer borrowed from FutureKMM, it seemed to keep things cool in her thread, and I’m hoping it will do the same for me.
I have nowhere else to turn to talk about this. Please do not judge me, there’s enough judgment and criticism elsewhere on the internet, I’m counting on WeddingBee to be the friendly, comfortable place I’ve come to love.
I’m pregnant. I am getting an abortion. I need help.
I was hoping if any other Bees have had abortions they could come forward to share their stories with me, either here, or if it is more comfortable, in a PM.
I did everything I was supposed to do to prevent pregnancy, yet here I am. I can’t do this. I ruined any chance at a good life this baby could have before I even knew I was pregnant. I smoke, I drink, I mainstream caffeine, eat all the wrong things, and as another Bee put it I frequently “dabble.” I’ve always wanted to be a mother, and that makes this so much harder. I’ve imagined the joy of bringing a life into the world, but I can’t do it right now. Not like this.
I’m sorry, I’m babbling. What I would really like is to know what to expect, from the doctor’s office, to recovery, to how you felt after, and how to deal with it.
Again, please be sensitive in your responses. This isn’t a decision I made lightly, it was very emotional, and I’m looking for support.