(Closed) I can't even afford to go to my own bachelorette party

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

if your girls are throwing the party they should pay.. you should just have to show up!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Can you ask your BMs to change it to something less costly?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

You can always politely decline the offer of someone hosting a Bridal Party for you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Chat to your BM’s – I’m sure they would be open to discussion?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Is it customary for a bride to pay at her bachelorette party? I’ve only been to one, and the bridesmaid hosting it made sure all the guests knew to chip in to cover costs for the bride.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Yeah you def shouldn’t have to pay for ANYTHING. They can’t have it without you there, so either have them cover your costs or ask them to change it to something less costly.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Pity party away.  That kind of sucks, I can’t believe she did that.

First of all, it must be nice to live in a world where money always works itself out.  Secondly, even on top of that, pretty self-absorbed.  You should make sure that the Maid/Matron of Honor gets to go!

I do think you should suggest she try and get a deposit back if by X date, only 2 or 3 people have been able to chip in.  It won’t be much of a party if it’s just 3 of you in a big empty house.  Things like that sort of need to be mutually agreed upon to work out, usually.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If it makes you feel better, not only did i have to pay for everything my Bachelorette weekend, my “MOH” made me pay for her…for EVERYTHING. She told me she’d pay me back for the flight…and didn’t. She also didn’t give me money for the hotel. AND while she was there she orders drinks on my cc and though I had passes to get into clubs for free she told us to go somewhere else cause we were on the guest list. well, no. SHE was on the guest list and we had to stand in line and pay. And she went right into the club with her friends while we waited. I was pretty pissed all weekend. I really didn’t think she would do that, just tell me, sorry Im not paying you back when she goes on trips and out all the time.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you need to put your foot down and insist that the party be something that all the girls can afford!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

All these lovely ladies are right, they should be paying for you. I sort of had an issue on my bachelorette party too.  I didnt want one but my friend insisted and I had to pay for a few items.  I didnt want one either because of the money.

I hope it turns out great.  Talk to your friends, they will understand. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

They shouldnt be planning something you cant afford and a week before the wedding you are never know what is going to pop up. I think if they are doing something so expensive they should be paying for you, they are throwing you the party.. I mean they would expect you to pay for your bridal shower right? They should all pitch in to cover you or change it to something that works for everyones budget!

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