Post # 1
It’s not something I’m really excited about, but I understand why it was planned the way it was so I have no problems with it. But with it being 1 week from the wedding, I’m just a little bummed that it’ll be so much money at such a crucial time. Oh well. :/
Post # 3
if your girls are throwing the party they should pay.. you should just have to show up!
Post # 4
Can you ask your BMs to change it to something less costly?
Post # 5
You can always politely decline the offer of someone hosting a Bridal Party for you.
Post # 6
Chat to your BM’s – I’m sure they would be open to discussion?
Post # 7
Is it customary for a bride to pay at her bachelorette party? I’ve only been to one, and the bridesmaid hosting it made sure all the guests knew to chip in to cover costs for the bride.
Post # 8
Yeah you def shouldn’t have to pay for ANYTHING. They can’t have it without you there, so either have them cover your costs or ask them to change it to something less costly.
Post # 9
Well, my bridesmaid just kinda told all of us what she was planning. Without going over the details or cost with anyone, arranged everything and put down a deposit on renting a house for the weekend. She then sent everyone an itinerary and how much they owe her for it. I just feel bad. I don’t want people to shell out a couple hundred $$ for the party. People aren’t giving her their deposits and I told her that maybe she needs to make sure everyone is able to afford it. She just says, “money will always work itself out” well yeah, but that might mean that she’s stuck paying a $1000 for a house for the weekend plus the cost of everything else. I feel bad too because my Maid/Matron of Honor is 16 and obviously can’t afford it but my mom said she can only go if she pays for it herself. I understand that because my mom just can’t do it contributing so much to the wedding, but she is my sister and my Maid/Matron of Honor, I can’t let her be left out and I know my other bridesmaids would figure out a way to make it work so she could go. But, I just feel like this is too much of a burden on people…and myself. I just feel like throwing a pity party today I guess
Post # 10
Btw…only 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man is throwing the party.
Post # 11
Pity party away. That kind of sucks, I can’t believe she did that.
First of all, it must be nice to live in a world where money always works itself out. Secondly, even on top of that, pretty self-absorbed. You should make sure that the Maid/Matron of Honor gets to go!
I do think you should suggest she try and get a deposit back if by X date, only 2 or 3 people have been able to chip in. It won’t be much of a party if it’s just 3 of you in a big empty house. Things like that sort of need to be mutually agreed upon to work out, usually.
Post # 12
If it makes you feel better, not only did i have to pay for everything my Bachelorette weekend, my “MOH” made me pay for her…for EVERYTHING. She told me she’d pay me back for the flight…and didn’t. She also didn’t give me money for the hotel. AND while she was there she orders drinks on my cc and though I had passes to get into clubs for free she told us to go somewhere else cause we were on the guest list. well, no. SHE was on the guest list and we had to stand in line and pay. And she went right into the club with her friends while we waited. I was pretty pissed all weekend. I really didn’t think she would do that, just tell me, sorry Im not paying you back when she goes on trips and out all the time.
Post # 13
I think you need to put your foot down and insist that the party be something that all the girls can afford!
Post # 14
@Angelz_love: Are you serious??! That’s AWFUL. I can’t believe your Maid/Matron of Honor, of all people, acted that way! I’m sorry!!
Post # 15
All these lovely ladies are right, they should be paying for you. I sort of had an issue on my bachelorette party too. I didnt want one but my friend insisted and I had to pay for a few items. I didnt want one either because of the money.
I hope it turns out great. Talk to your friends, they will understand.
Post # 16
They shouldnt be planning something you cant afford and a week before the wedding you are never know what is going to pop up. I think if they are doing something so expensive they should be paying for you, they are throwing you the party.. I mean they would expect you to pay for your bridal shower right? They should all pitch in to cover you or change it to something that works for everyones budget!