(Closed) I can’t find a dress… ;(

posted 8 years ago in July 2011
Post # 3
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

Do you have pictures of yourself in these dresses?  It’s hard to give you opinions without seeing you in them.  Have you had friends or other people with you to try on each of these dresses?  What do they think?

Post # 4
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

For starters, you probably need to give yourself 6 months. If your wedding isn’t until July, you still have several months.  I had a lot of problems with “there’s lots I like, but nothing I love”.  Many girls on here never have the “a-ha” moment. I would also encourage you to look at dresses that are NOT what you think you have in mind.  Different silhouettes, dresses with bling, etc.  Going outside what you think you want might help a little.

Post # 5
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would also take a week or so and just give yourself some time away from all the tulle and satin. Looking at dresses can get really overwhelming, and if you give yourself some space, you’re much more likely to be excited about whatever you find. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you tried any on? Trust me once you put the dresses on you will start to see the ones you defintely dont like and eliminate those and then gradually find one that you love. I thought I knew what I wanted and was just as confused but once I started tryin them on It was easy for me from there. I fell in love with a gown that I completely didnt like in the picture or on the hanger but loved how it looked and felt on me

Post # 7
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I second bells and Georgia Bee:

1. You don’t necessarily need a whole 9 months (or 8) to get a dress (and while they don’t really like to talk about it and although I wouldn’t recommend that you wait until the last minute, bridal salons are there to sell you a dress and they’ll work to accomodate less-than-ideal timelines. They CAN pull strings within reason–I know brides who got their dresses within weeks of their weddings–and had them altered and all). It’s not worth panicking.

2. Most brides choose their dress because it FITS them–ie, it works when it’s on their body. It’s sort of like dating a guy–you find the guy you like…because you like him. You don’t generally find a guy because “he has eyes like Matt Damon, a body like Daniel Craig, and the personality of Stephen Colbert” (although if you HAVE found him, please introduce me)–dresses are more than the sum of their parts and you don’t really “get” that until it’s on you. Don’t get too fixated on the details–work on the fit first and then worry about the details (a lot of them can be changed anyway).

3. Don’t hold too tight to a fantasy. Concentrate on the reality.

4. Some brides expect to meet Jesus when they try on “the dress” and for a lot of us, it just didn’t happen that way. I mean, we love our dresses–but perhaps it’s not more than just a pleasant, “Oooh, this looks nice on me!” feeling.

You’ll find your dress! It’s out there ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

do you want to post photos of you in the dresses that you “kind of” like so that we can help you figure out what exactly you like?

have you looked at Allure and Casablanca dresses? they have many dresses within your budget. also, David’s Bridal has been coming out with really nice bridal gowns.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was in the same place as you– I felt so lost, I wasn’t sure what I wanted, and I was worried that I would end up ordering my dress too late.  I followed the advice of a bunch of girls on this board and it helped, I took a time out.  

I walked away for two weeks.  Then I went back and thought about what I liked and didn’t like.  And when it was time for my appointment, I allowed the consultant to put me in the dresses she thought would look nice on me. And since I had a better idea, I was able to say more than “elegant,” and “flowy.” Because that was too vague.  And lastly, I didn’t freak out when I found my dress, I knew it was right for me, but I didn’t burst into tears.  It just felt right after so many wrong dresses.

Also, you still have plenty of time.  I ordered my dress on Saturday and it will get here in plenty of time for alterations.  Good luck!  You’ll find it!

Post # 10
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would say you need 6 months, not 8 or 9, just as the PPs have said.

I had an awful time finding a dress. I looked for almost 7 months. I tried on probably around 150 dresses. I was sure I was never going to have the “this is it!” moment. I ended up buying a dress that I didnt love and regretted it. After a couple months, I realized I needed something different. I went shopping a second time and tried on less that 10 dresses and I had my “moment”.

My major screw-up? I was too closed-minded the first time around. I thought I knew what I wanted and I refused to try on other things. I originally wanted a lace trumpet. My first dress was a satin mermaid and the dress that I love is a taffeta ballgown.

Just take some time off, look around and try things that you havent tried yet.

Post # 11
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11283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know the last dress you showed is Alfred Angelo 1148 and if you type that into the search box you’ll see thread results for this dress, some with photos of real brides in it. But as other bees have said, still keep an open mind.

Post # 12
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If your busty I think the third dress is best. But out of the two strapless, I think I am more impressed with the first. Just MPO

Post # 13
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have you tried any dresses on?  I would really start with trying different dresses on and then go from there!!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

The first picture was my dress!!! I loved it!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ The back is gorgeous too because it’s a corset back ๐Ÿ™‚ I got a ton of compliments on it. Best of luck to you! You will be a beautiful bride!

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