Post # 1
Bees, how on earth do I tell my husband that I cannot find my rings?
The last time I saw them was Tuesday night. I went to the gym right after work and I wear my rings to work out. (I used to put them in my purse in my locker but one of my friends had her locker broken into and had her rings stolen). When I got home I took a shower, cleaned my rings and put them in a little closed box that sits in our kitchen right by the door to the garage. I always put my rings in this box.
My DH usually leaves for work before me and yesterday he had to be at work extra early so I vaguely remember him leaving. I overslept my alarm and rushed out of the house without putting my rings on. Because I was so late (I’m a teacher) I didn’t have time to go back and get them. I felt uneasy at work all day yesterday because I knew the rings were at home and the cleaning lady was coming over.
Our cleaning lady is a lady that lives in our subdivision that so many families use. She came highly recommended from several of my neighbors.
Anyway, as soon as I got home I looked in the little box…..my rings were gone!
I could tell the cleaning lady was there because the place was spotless. I started looking everywhere – in my dresser, in the bathroom, in the garbage – I mean everywhere!
Once DH got home, I didn’t know what to do. I continued to casually look and he asked a couple of time what I was looking for and I just said I was rearranging things.
I asked a couple of my coworkers what they would do, and now I’m asking the Bee. I have absolutely no proof that the cleaning lady took my rings. I get sick even thinking that she would do such a thing. But I am absolutely certain that I put them in the little box I always put them in. We don’t have any pets. The little shelf that the box sits on was dusted and it didn’t seem like the box was out of place.
I don’t know how to A) tell DH that my rings are gone, and B) tell him that the last time I saw them was before the cleaning lady came. Do I call her? What would I say?
I am sick just typing this. How would you handle this?
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2007 - City, State
I think I would call her and ask. say you placed the rings there and they’re gone! First id tell you’d husband to make sure he isn’t holding them. If not, I’d ask the cleaning lady. I mean if you’re 100% positive you put them there and your hubby didn’t take them, than it has to be the cleaning lady.. If it is, I’d cancel her cleaning my place and change my locks immediately!!
Post # 3
I would call her and ask if she saw them… don’t accuse her or anything, just say, “I swear I left them in that box!”
I really hope you find them. Please keep us posted!
Post # 4
Call and ask!! I would do it this second.
Post # 5
Yeah, this. I wouldn’t go about accusing her, but definitely ask about it. And tell your husband.
Post # 6
If you don’t want to accuse her outright, you can mention that they’re missing and ask her if she “happened to see them anywhere while cleaning” first…
Post # 7
I would call her without accusing her. Just say where you keep them and ask if she happen to see them. Let her know they were there the night before and gone the next day and you are just trying to retrace your steps.
I tell your husband. Its not your fault if they were stolen. Just explain the situation. Unless you constantly lose things and he gets mad about that I cant imagine he will be mad.
Post # 8
Call the cleaning lady and ask, but why on earth can’t you tell your husband? Maybe he has some ideas where to look. And in the future, don’t take those puppies off your finger!
Post # 9
Sounds like you looked pretty hard but I would retrace your steps again, such as, are you sure you didn’t forget and put them in your purse again to work out, or leave them where you cleaned them? In a cleaner, by the sink, on the floor, in the shower, etc. Also, you should definately ask DH and the cleaning lady. The last time I was missing important jewelry, SO had put it in the medicine cabinet for me because I left it sitting by the sink and he didn’t want it getting knocked into the sink. I was in tears and it had just been not so helpfully moved for me!
Post # 10
First I’d tell your husband (maybe he took them to be cleaned as a present?) then if he doesn’t have them I’d call the cleaning lady and ask if she moved them. I know our cleaning lady once put a tooth brush in a sock drawer :-/ If she said she didn’t move them I’d probably file a police report.
Post # 11
Maybe he moved them. Or maybe the cleaning lady moved them. I would ask them both and just see. And I would retrace those steps again. Sometimes I get so in a routine and misplace things because I am so certain that I left it where I normally do. I am sure none of that makes any sense.
I do hope you find them. I know it’s such a helpless feeling.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Like others have said, call the cleaning lady and ask if she’s seen your rings because you thought you had put them in the box and they weren’t there when you looked. Ask if she might have seen them while she was cleaning?
Why are you so afraid of telling your husband? Your rings should be insured, so even if they were stolen you can get them replaced. He shouldn’t be mad at you.
Post # 13
Check again everywhere!! The worse thing would be to accuse her and then find them. Tell him, I’m sorry. I know it will suck, my Fiance would be upset but he can help you look with a clearer mind. Also, what if he realized you had lost them and he purposedly took them to give you a lesson?
If between the two of you, you can’t find them, call her asking nicely. I’m not very religious anymore but my mom always says she’ll pray to a certain Saint when she can’t find something. In those helpless moments, I actually appreciate her praying for me. It’s silly but that’s the feeling I have right now. You’ll be in my thoughts and I hope you find them.
I thought I misplaced my ering when I went to visit my mom last summer. I had put it on her vanity before going to bed and the next day I couldn’t find them anywhere. It just so happens that she put something on top and they were concealed from my view. Those were 5-10 terrifying minutes…
Post # 14
I don’t think DH took them and put them somewhere because the ONE time I did not put them in the little box and he found them on the counter, he immediately called me over and pointed it out. So I would think that if he did see them lying somewhere he would mention it instead of just moving them.
My coworkers gave me the same advice all you are giving me – call the cleaning lady. So I did.
I asked her if she saw them lying somewhere and explained what I did the last time I had them. She said she did not see them anywhere. I tried to be as non-accusatory as possible and said I remember putting them in the box and she said she never opens boxes when she cleans. You could tell from her answers that she was a little miffed that I asked her.
So now what do I do?
It’s not that I can’t tell my husband, I’m just afraid he will freak out. I can’t call him at work because he has appointments all afternoon and I usually don’t bother him unless it’s an emergency.
UGH! I get to leave work in about 45 minutes so I’m going to tear the house apart again.
Post # 15
Im sorry , but she not going tell you if she stole them . If you can’t find them at all tonight ,then you know .