(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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1533 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Leave. 

Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave. 

Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave.  Leave. 

TTC with a guy who calls you “a worthless piece of shit”???!!

I don’t know anything about you but I know you can do better.  Because literally anybody will be better.  

If you’re in Texas message me and I’ll send you info for a very good divorce lawyer I know.

Post # 3
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1546 posts
Bumble bee

LEAVE

Post # 4
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Pack your things up and go now, don’t waste another minute on that dickwad.

Post # 5
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9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Omfg he is worthless scum. PLEASE leave.

Post # 6
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Tell him goodbye and never look back. Nobody deserves this. Take our advise and find someone that will love u for who you are. 

Post # 7
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10093 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

camenae :  Spot on.

Leave this dude. He doesn’t love you.

Post # 8
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9982 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Please, please, please get help for yourself.  You are being abused – terribly abused.  It doesn’t matter if it’s not physical, he is literally destroying your soul.  Please don’t have a child with this monster.  You deserve so much better than this.  He is wrong to treat you like this!  You need counseling for yourself alone.  You are reaching out for help by posting this.  Contact a counselor without your husband’s knowledge and start making a plan to extricate yourself safely from this sham of a marriage.  His verbal abuse could suddenly turn physical if he gets a clue that you might make changes to help yourself or leave him.  It’s very common for verbal abuse to escalate to being physical. 

It scares me that he’s in law enforcement.  I am literally shaking being terrified for you right now.

Post # 9
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938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

you should be the one to LEAVE HIM!!!!! WHAT A SELFISH BASTARD!!! When he married you he made a commitment to love you forever. what a piece of GARBAGE!!!! 

Post # 10
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Reading your post breaks my heart.  I’m sorry you are going through this.  Please don’t think you are worthless.  

Please get out of there ASAP.  No one deserves that kind of treatment.  Please reach out to your family and friends.  You have nothing to be ashame of.  Him making you feel like you do is just him trying to trap you so you feel like you can’t escape.  You deserve better than an ass like him.

Post # 11
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3025 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

This is abuse. You need to leave asap. Please seek out family or close friends to stay with and get yourself out of that toxic atmosphere!!

Post # 12
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2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

worthlessbee : ewwww what a piece of shit. DIVORCE his ass immediately and take care of yourself otherwise this will be the life you are always going to have. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. You are literally living in hell so that you can save face with random people- think about that. They aren’t worth it and your marriage is a sham as you said. Leave that creep and get your life back!

Post # 13
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3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

What a piece of shit!  You deserve so much better – NO ONE deserves to be talked to like that, especially by someone they love, and who is supposed to love them. Please leave.

eta – Please – think about if your future daughter was telling you she was experiencing this. What would you tell her to do? Please follow your own advice, because you know you would tell her to leave asap!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I can’t say it any better than the ladies before me. You need to leave.

He may never have hit you but this is absolutely abusive. He is tearing you down emotionally and mentally. 

You NEED to love yourself more than him right now. I know you said you love him more than yourself (and this is also likely a consequence of the abuse too as you have become dependent on him…it is not love, but I know you believe and feel it is), but fake it until you make it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Let me also please add that I understand being in love with your abuser.  I get it, I’ve been there.  The abuse will never get better, it will only get worse.  He’s a narcissistic sociopath, based on your post.  He knows how to fool people into thinking he’s a charming good guy while all the time hiding his dark side and taking his anger and hatred out on you – his chosen victim.  The years will only bring you more pain and misery.  I left my abuser (who was verbally as well as physically abusive) in a very careful, methodical way with a lot of support from friends, family and counselors.  It can be done. 

I am now very happily married to a wonderful, loving, kind man who has never said an unkind or angry word to me in all the years I’ve known him.  You can have a better future that what you’re going through now.  Having a child with an abuser could end up becoming your worst nightmare and you’ll be far more trapped than you are now.  Please think about that!

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