(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 271
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Worker bee

Please continue to update us. I have been thinking of you constantly.

Post # 272
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415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

OMG I am SO HAPPY to read this!!! Good for you!!! Seriously! This is amazing. I’m glad you spilled to your boss — I knew as soon as someone heard your story that they would want to help you ASAP, as we all did here. You deserve so much more!!!! Please keep us updated. We want to know how you are doing as time goes on 🙂

Post # 273
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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worthlessbee :  YES YES YES!!!! this seriously has made my day.  You’ve totally got this!!!! SO INCREDIBLY PROUD OF YOU.

Post # 274
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

That’s amazing! You should stop updating until then. No need to risk a slip up and letting him know while you’re already in a tight situation.

Post # 275
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My dad treated my mother and us kids like this :'( Please don’t continue to subject yourself to this toxic emotional abuse. My dad’s favorite nickname for me was “worthless” and then he said the same thing along the lines of me being too sensitive, and that we were chubby or fat. I am still in therapy over this (going on 4+ years now).

You are not worthless. Please, for your own well being, get out of there! Live YOUR life to its fullest and stop listening to the evil hatred coming out of that man’s mouth. It is, by absolutely no doubt, emotional abuse and it can leave very very deep scars. 

Also, when it came to my parents, my dad flat out told me the reason he married my mother was her looks. For years he degraded how she looked, and my sisters and myself. Please, it isn’t worth staying with him. You might love him for what he used to be, but you got to look after yourself first and foremost.

I hope for the best for you. 

Post # 276
Hostess
4584 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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worthlessbee :  I am so proud of you bee!  You’re going to have the amazing life you deserve.  Stay safe and please let us know when you are out of there! 

Post # 277
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Bumble bee

YES YES YES YES!!! So happy to read this.

Post # 278
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You can do this!! Sooo happy to hear your update!! And that you signed it ‘no longer worthless bee’. !!

Post # 279
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1277 posts
Bumble bee

You are so amazing! Way to go getting so organized and really clever with the fake time off request! Very impressed bee ♡

Post # 280
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Theater

Congratulations on your big major steps you’re taking! It is the begining of a bright new future for you and an incredible journey to healing! Please remain careful and pretend normal until you know he’s on the goddamn plane. I hope that all the supports you are putting in place go smoothly for you in the meantime. Please be careful with your phone and computer. If you ever, EVER need any help, know that Bees will be there for you. 

A safe exit is the thing we all hope and wish for you. This nightmare is coming to an end, but you will need help to continue moving forward– and know that that help is out there for you! It’s okay to be scared! This is big stuff, but you can do this. You can.

Post # 281
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

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worthlessbee :  Oh sweetheart…I am so proud of you! I know none of this is easy but you are so brave. Your life will change but you and you alone will be the author of your future. That alone is very empowering. Time for you to re-discover the obviously amazing woman he couldn’t keep down. 

Post # 282
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90 posts
Worker bee

I just want to add to make sure not to act out of the “normal” until he leaves. You don’t want to raise any red flags and alert him. Also, do you have definite confirmation of when he is leaving, his flight confirmation etc. so that you know for SURE that he is out of sight? I don’t want to alarm you but you want to plan it out carefully and be sure he’s actually gone. I’m thinking of your safety. 

Post # 283
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

I have been in your shoes, bee. And it took him leaving ME for me to realize what hell i was living in.

you will be SO proud of yourself for making this step on your own. You can do this. I know it. and life will be SO much better, very very soon. *****hugs*****

Post # 284
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372 posts
Helper bee

YES!!!!!!

I’m at my desk at work but I just fist pumped and then broke down in tears at your update. I’ve been thinking of you all day, I’m so glad to hear that you are well.

You are so strong and so smart (the PTO request is genius!). You have so much to offer this world and the world has so much better in store for you. 

Please stay safe and stay smart. You will be in my thoughts.

Post # 285
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5092 posts
Bee Keeper

No longer feeling like a 

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worthlessbee :  -cause you never have been a worthless bee!  He made you feel that way to keep you imprisoned.  I have been so worried for you, since you said you had some small slip-ups, because he has had you so tethered.  Now I am breathing a sigh of relief for your safety.  But yes, please continue to act “normal” as I know you will, until he is away!  Please also get a restraining order and a police escort  when you get your things, just in case, in case he’s lying, he missed his flight, it was cancelled or postponed.  Before, I was tearful, for all the pain you have been enduring, now I am tearful with pride, and happiness for you, as you will soar like a bird from the misery you have endured.  I can’t wait until you are FREE!!  You will begin to LIVE again!!!  We are so glad for the new possibilities you will have opening up for you and your happiness!  Please let us know when you are out and safe.  And if missinthecity can help you, so that he can have no revenge, please PM her to help you.  And if you ever feel fearful, -connect with us, we will help you.  We are all with you.  Sending much love from Oregon. 

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