(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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819 posts
Busy bee

Oh honey, you deserve so much better!!!!! Please leave him and take good care of yourself. You know his behavior isn’t normal or loving!

Post # 17
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397 posts
Helper bee

My heart aches for you. This man does not love you. He enjoys hurting you and putting you down. He is not a good person. He wants you to be beneath him and you don’t deserve it. Please do not have a child with this man. Your child may think this behavior is normal; you cannot risk that.

Right now you may not realize this because he’s torn you down, but you deserve better. Please find a trusted person you can confide in and share what is going on. It may help you feel less alone. Do not feel ashamed; this is not your fault. Please leave and do not look back.

 

Post # 18
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1536 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Leave. You’re are experiencing emotional abuse. I’m sure his comments are not doing anything positive for your frame of mind. You don’t deserve this.  Would inserting a child into this make for a happy home? 

What happens if you did put on weight during pregnancy?

Post # 19
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1245 posts
Bumble bee

This is terrible – You need to tell someone close to you. I was in a similar relationship but for a shorter period of time. It wasn’t until I told someone close to me how bad it was that I got the courage to leave.

You deserve better. 

Post # 20
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4121 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh honey. Please talk to someone :a friend or family member about this. No one has the right to make you feel like this.

Post # 21
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4585 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My heart is breaking for you. You are not worthless, and you do not deserve to be treated this way. It is absolutely abuse. I know it’s probably hard to imagine leaving, but try to dig down and find the strength to do so. You deserve to be loved for who you are, the way you are – not torn down by a terrible, cruel person who doesn’t recognize a real woman’s body as beautiful.

Please see a counselor or therapist (without your husband’s knowledge, if at all possible) to talk this through with. They will help you before and after you leave. If you don’t have family or friends you can turn to, call an abuse hotline and they will help you figure out where to go.

In the meantime, stay safe and protect yourself by ensuring that you close this window and clear your history whenever you leave your computer or phone. Abusers don’t like to see the truth about themselves and the wrong thing could turn him into a physical abuser, too.

Post # 22
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

LEAVE.

What a twatwaffle. Please, my heart hurts for you. Leave this undeserving douchbag.

Post # 23
Member
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Omg this situation sounds horrible,you say you’ve done everything you can to make the comments stop but there’s nothing you can do but leave!!! He thinks it’s ok to treat you this way because you stay with him. I’m so sorry bee I hope you find the courage to leave this scumbag. 

Post # 24
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11434 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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worthlessbee :  oh bee,this is heartbreaking. 

Listen. A marriage is supposed to build you up, not tear you down. No one is perfect but your husband is a destroyer of trust, love and intimacy. There is no way your marriage will ever serve its intended purpose to elevate both of you in love.

i agree with PP that you should leave. And remember, you have nothing to be ashamed of. These are his words, his cruelty– not a reflection of you.

you derseve batter and you can have it if you leave him. Stand up for yourself. You’re worth it.

Post # 25
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Bee, my heart just breaks for you.  No one deserves this.  You need support and love and yet I’m sure you feel just so alone.  You are being abused.  There is not gentle or easy way to put it.  You deserve SO SO much better.

Post # 26
Member
766 posts
Busy bee

you don’t need to be ashamed, go to someone. Can you start with your church? it’s typical for a abusive man to hide his behavior. But please get out of this and get out now before it gets even harder.

You deserve better than this, don’t try and change him, he’s not worth the effort. Please get out and get out quickly!

Post # 27
Member
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

This made me so sad to read. Please leave him. Today. Just go stay with someone else. There is so much more to life than this. You deserve a million times better. He is worthless. Do not allow this abuse to go on. Leave him and seek counseling.

Post # 29
Member
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

leave now, leave today, don’t wait another minute.

You are wasting your time with the scum of the earth (and as another woman who is a size 8, who the fuck does he think he is!) he doesn’t deserve you and never did.

get out now, now, now.

 

Post # 30
Member
848 posts
Busy bee

LEAVE.

You will feel so much better with someone who doesn’t talk to you like this. “For better or worse”.

120 to 152 is NOTHING. So many people gain weight being married/having kids/just getting older. I went from 126 to 157 and if I ever got these comments I’d be out the door.

 

YOU DESERVE SOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER!!!!!! ****hugssssss****

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