(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 571
3212 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

i had a million things to do today when i got home from work, but not going to lie! I kept checking this thread instead of settling into things!


I am SOOOOOOO PROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!  I can understand that life was a roller coaster today (if it was for me as a reader of your thread, I can’t IMAGINE what it was like for you) – but you need to know that you are an amazing, strong and kickass woman!


Now, do you have thoughts on what to change your username to?

Post # 572
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

I want to give you a hug!! I’m so so proud of you and I’m so glad your parents know what you’ve been through all these years. Previous posters are right, it will be a tough few weeks but you’re so brave and so strong! Enjoy your glass of wine, your well deserved rest, and your new apartment! Xoxoxo 

Praying for peace and rest for your this week. ❤️

Post # 573
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

Please file for divorce before he gets back, so he cannot do anything with your assets when he realizes you left. 

Post # 574
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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worthlessbee :  You are amazing. I kept coming back to check for updates. Good for you for cutting your hair. Perhaps a new celebratory hair color that you love is in order too? 🙂 Please stay safe. Leaving can be dangerous, but it sounds like you are doing so amazing bee. My heart is full for you.

Post # 575
5082 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yes! You’re amazing!

Post # 576
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

This is the best news – I am in awe of your strength and courage.  I can’t even imagine what you have been through but you have come out the other side as an amazing strong woman whose life is only just beginning.  Please keep updating this thread because you know that everyone who has read your story wants to see you succeed in your new life.

Post # 577
2294 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So glad to hear you’re safe and out.  You are incredibly brave.  I wish you peace and happiness and closure in these next few days- keep us updated and know that you have so many internet strangers on your side.  

Post # 578
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Bee, I have been following your story since you first posted, hoping things work out well for you. As a domestic violence survivor, I know how difficult it is to move on from what is a sick, vicious and addictive cycle, because abuse can be really like a drug. No matter how much you know that person is bad for you, you keep staying, hoping for a better result, for something better every time. You try to only remember the good feelings of high, disregarding how bad the bad really is. I know it’s so hard to walk away. But you did it!!!! You deserve something better in your life and you will have it now, and it will be so much more fulfilling and cherished now that you’ve had to overcome so much to get it. Trust me, this is the beginning of an amazing and happy life for you. 

We are all so proud of how strong and resilient you have been and I only wish you the very best in all of this. You are so worthy. God bless and keep your chin up girl! You’re doing so great!!! 

Post # 579
3271 posts
Sugar bee

So incredibly happy for you – you are amazing!

Take some deep breaths, allow yourself to feel the feelings, but realize you did the best thing for you. You can go to sleep without full make up, you can be comfortable, you don’t have to walk on eggshells. You and your pup can snuggle allll night.

Keep people aware of your whereabouts, and situation right now until things are set in place legally, and he has time to cool down. Make sure people know when you’re leaving, where you’re going, etc. Stay strong, you so deserve all the good coming your way.

Sending big hugs, and infinate amounts of encouragement!

Post # 580
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have been refreshing this thread ever since you gave us your plan to leave. I am SO SO SO happy for you. Starting fresh and leaving what you’ve known for so long behind can be scary, but you have so much support from family, friends, and bees that will walk with you through this new chapter in your life. Just please, please, please becareful of your own safety, especially when you’re heading to regular locations where he knows of, such as on the way to work or coffee shops or other places you visit often. As you’ve mentioned, his aggressiveness seems to have escalated, so take many precautions and stay safe, bee!

Lots and lots of blessings to you!

Post # 581
21 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

Just another bee that is so happy for you!!!  Onward and upward!  💛

Post # 583
72 posts
Worker bee

I have wanted to post but THIS IS AMAZING.  I DONT KNOW YOU BUT I COULD HUG YOU TO A MILLION PIECES!.  you are a inspiration to us all and I am so glad to call you friend from a distance bee!!!  YOU DID IT!!! YOU DID IT!!! I am praying, clapping, singing, and rejoicing for you.  This is not just your victory this a victory for every woman who feels she has no voice, or has lost her way, or is broken.  You have given without a doubt many other bees the courage to get out of any relationship that may be toxic.  I cant wait for a update.  If I could send u a million roses I would.  AGAIN CONGRATS and toast and cheers to you girly!!! SUPERWOMAN!

Post # 584
911 posts
Busy bee

Please also ask your lawyer about what information confidentiality programs may be available in your state for victims like you who have filed for orders of protection. I’m not a lawyer, but I know that in some states you may qualify for confidential voting registration, a confidential address on your driver’s license records, etc. so that your address doesn’t go into public records. That way it would be harder for your ex to find your new home if he tried to. Not trying to scare you, just trying to raise awareness.

Here’s a link with contact info for New Mexico’s program:


Please be safe! I think it’s worth taking reasonable precautions to protect your safety and privacy since he is so clearly abusive and unhinged and has threatened you. It might not be a terrible idea to get in touch with a domestic abuse victims’ advocate organization in your state who can help you navigate through any services or assistance might be available to you.

Post # 585
410 posts
Helper bee

Exactly Bee!!

When it feels like all you can do is breath then that’s all you need to do.

Yo are a strong, smart and brave and incredible woman. Always remember that when you start to doubt yourself. You have just done the incredible. Congratulations.

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