(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 586
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’ve been following along the thread and just wanted to say I’m SO PROUD OF YOU!  You are not worthless, you are incredibly strong, smart, and brave.  You’ve unlocked yourself from his prison, and you’re now free to find love, happiness, and fulfillment.  I know it’s hard to venture into the unknown world, but please, whenever you miss him or think about going back to him, post here or talk to one of your friends first so that we can remind you why you needed to leave.  He is a dangerous psychopath and I really fear he could have killed you if you stayed with him.  You have so many people who love and care about you, let that love and caring nourish you and help you heal from his poisonous words and actions.

In the future, DO NOT directly communicate with him at all.  Use a third party (lawyer, mutual acquaintance, whatever) for any kind of communication.  I’m sure he’ll do everything he can to manipulate you to come back to him, Pretend he realized his mistakes and will treat you better in the future.  DO NOT TRUST HIM.  DO NOT TALK TO HIM EVER AGAIN.  CUT OFF ALL CONTACT.  And NEVER meet with him alone again.  Make sure that your dog is safe too, I fear that while you’re at work he might try to attack your dog or others you care about.

I’m so excited for you.  The world is your oyster, you are free now and can find yourself again, and reach for your dreams. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 587
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

So happy for you! I know it is hard to leave but you should know that things will get better. You deserve better and this is just the start to a new beginning.

Post # 588
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Love and hugs to you xoxoxox

Post # 589
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Blushing bee

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worthlessbee :  so relieved you are out of there!! Way to go girl!! 

I know I already said it, but please contact me if you need anything! Im pretty sure we are in the same city, at least in the same state. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 590
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Helper bee

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worthlessbee :  Gosh…what a relief!! Thank you for the update, WORTH-A-MILLION-BUCKS-bee!! You did it!! May God keep you safe and protected from now on – and in all future relationships cherished, loved and respected as you should be! 

I’m so glad you’re out…as you said, now you can finally breathe. Give yourself time to heal, it’s a gradual process…it’s totally fine not to be laughing and jumping around right away. Just, whatever you do, don’t EVER go back. You accomplished what many women don’t have the courage to do for the rest of their lives. But the hardest thing is to stick to your guns. Stay strong and never forget YOUR WORTH.  

Post # 591
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

So happy that you’ve got out! Best wishes to you, you will find happiness again and find your true love xx

Post # 592
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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bethy18 :  please see her *many* updates, she has already left.

Post # 593
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Newbee

So incredibly impressed with your strength. Know that it is completely normal to cycle through grief for the relationship and excitement for the future. Grief doesn’t mean that you made a wrong choice in leaving, just that you had/have love for him and that doesn’t disappear just because he was abusive. Grief is often over the loss of the future you wanted with him ย (even if that future wasn’t what you would have gotten from him)

Post # 594
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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trianglecoast :  

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Post # 595
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Bumble bee

Been following and so happy for today’s update.  I know you’ve been with him for most of your adult life, but I loved living alone and I think you will too.  SO proud of you!!  Here’s to your bright future ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 598
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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trianglecoast :  Thank you, I did try to remove my post as I realised after I posted that she is away from it all.    So so happy she’s had the courage to leave!

Post # 599
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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bethy18 :  You can’t delete your posts but you can click “Edit” and remove all the text, so long as you do it less than an hour after you post. (I think you need to leave a word or two because it doesn’t allow empty posts). Don’t worry, it’s a mistake we all make.

While I’m posting, I 100% endorse 

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raspberrybidet : ‘s advice to never talk to him directly again. And to the OP, YOU GO GIRL! We are all so relieved for you.

Post # 600
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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aussiemum1248 :  Thank you, I guess I have a lot to learn ๐Ÿ˜

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