(Closed) I can't keep this secret any longer…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 616
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Oh darlin! I started crying as soon as I read your update! I am sooo proud of you!! I remember my first night in my little apartment after I left my abusive ex, it was terrifying and exciting. I wanted to throw up and dance around. It was a very confusing time, but looking back it was one of the best times of my life. I was able to finally find myself again and learn to love me. Over the next while you will doubt your decision, but always keep in mind the feeling you have right now of being able to finally breathe. I hope you know how special you are and how absolutely freakin’ BRAVE you are!! You are my hero. Sending you love, strength, prayers and lots of big hugs sweetie! Love ya 

Post # 617
9459 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

OP: I am so happy for you, and so incredibly proud of you.

KoiKove :  great advice.

I’d also add get identity theft protection for yourself, if you think him racking up credit card debt is at all possible (I’d assume it is, he sounds like a vindictive prick).  It’ll prevent anyone (him included) from opening cards in your name, essentially.  (Except you, I assume).  I know regular people who’ve had their identity stolen and they use it without a problem and are happy for it.


Post # 618
1104 posts
Bumble bee

Just sending you a great BIG congratulations and hug!!! I’m sure you have very mixed feelings and maybe even feel different minute to minute, and that’s totally ok. 

You did the right thing! Even though the next few months might be a bit tough or emotionally draining, always know that you did the right thing. I am beyond thrilled for you and proud of you. Girl, YOU DID IT. You are so strong and your world is filled with endless possibilities, and you did that. 

Post # 619
283 posts
Helper bee

so proud of you BEE!!  stay safe

Post # 620
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016


Post # 621
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

congratulations bee, just take each day as it comes.  there will be challenges but it will be worth it x

Post # 622
2121 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My favourite threads on Wedding Bee are always about pets or pictures of newborn babies looking like grumpy old men. This one trumps them all. It’s amazing. People here are amazing, it gives me so much faith and it warms my cockles no end!

worthlessbee :  Congratulations Worthy Bee! Onwards and upwards for you now. Congrats on your new apartment too. You’re so courageous, I want to take a leaf out of your book. Enjoy every moment 🙂 x

Post # 623
460 posts
Helper bee

Another bee just wanting to say congrats, you’re amazing, so strong, such an inspiration! Stay safe, Bee xxxx

Post # 624
770 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t get to your thread before you left, unfortunately, but having read most of it now, including your updates, I’m in awe. Both of your bravery and courage, and the support of the bees who have commented. What an amazing conclusion. Congratulations, bee, and thank you for taking your puppy. Big hugs to you! 

Post # 625
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

So, so , so proud of you!!! You are sooooooooo brave! Your life begins anew and nothing but good things await you! Take a deep breath, and forge onwards. Good luck Bee!

Post # 626
9051 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

worthlessbee :  I am so relieved to see your update bee!!!!! We are all so proud of you and so glad you got out safely.

Post # 627
183 posts
Blushing bee

Hey! You’re doing amazingly.

Right now, your feelings are perfectly normal. Hang on to your feelings of being relieved and excited, because it’s important to remember that even though you feel uncomfortable to some extent/devastated about leaving, you are actually doing the right thing!

Keep being your impressively calm self and take as many deep breaths as you need. Of course, it’s completely understandable if deep breaths isn’t enough at times. Call your parents, talk to your friends, or even post here! Whenever you need support or to express the overwhelming feelings of it all, you have lots of loving people to fall back on – because there are people who genuinely and properly love you. (:

Post # 628
1125 posts
Bumble bee

Congratulations!! I am thrilled for you and your update made me cry happy tears! What you have done is incrediby brave and inspiring to all of us. So proud of you and happy for you!

Post # 629
6924 posts
Busy Beekeeper

So happy for you Bee!!!

As PPs have suggested–please continue to take measures to stay safe. This may get harder before it gets better but at least you are in your own place. Don’t talk to him, don’t meet with him. Your lawyer is his new point of contact. 

Try to do something new for yourself every day, whether it’s buying a new throw pillow or signing up for a class. You are amazing. 

Post # 630
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is amazing! I’m so happy for you Bee – congratulations on your new life! You are an inspiration!

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