Post # 17
@78h2o: Regarding the hygiene stuff, I would use positive reinforement (like others have mentioned) and jump him anytime he finishes brushing his teeth, etc! lol 🙂
LOL! Like How I Met Your Mother. “No wonder I get an erection every time I floss!” Haha!
Thanks for your advice everyone! I’ll definitely give it a shot.
We have lived together about a year before getting married and it was kinda hit or miss on him brushing his teeth twice a day, but he definitely did try harder before. I also know he hasn’t been in the greatest of moods since our move, so I’ll try to be a little easier on him.
Post # 18
Just a small comment on the brushing twice (or more) a day. Not everyone does this…in fact I would daresay the majority don’t brush twice a day. And the person who brushes more than that is a rare person indeed…or a dentist. So try not to be too hard on your hubby. This isn’t normal behavior for most people, but if you need it to have sex then explain that as something you need him to do for you
, not that it’s unhygenic. Might help =)
Post # 19
Men tend to operate better when their penis is involved. A little bribery never hurt anyone 😉 Seriously though, if you tell him that his hygiene is making you less attracted to him (and less horny!) it will probably click in right away.
At one point in our relationship, my DH was doing things that made me feel like he was more like my child than my lover and I told him that it was a turn off and killing our sex life. As soon as he heard this, he changed his behaviours.
I also use BJ’s as motivational tools. Horrible you say? He doesn’t mind one bit and it gets him motivated to do just about anything so we both win.
Post # 20
🙁 well im so sorry for hearing that.. it sucks. Brushing his teeth can be ehh.. but its not a deal breaker really.. atleast he remembers to brush once haha.. its better then not doing it at all.. but I dont think u should be nagging on him to brush his teeth cuz he might really think ” your not his mom”- no offense.
If your not physically attracted to him, then you guys need a serious sit down and u need to confront him. Maybe when you tell him whats going on in the back of your head- he might find it a motivation to get up and change his life style? but maybe t hat shold be kept as last option- try all the nice – sweet options first before going rough. I know were supposed to love our spouses through good and bad, sickness and in health and even through ” thick and thin” lol — but I can understand why you just DONT feel it no more- its not your fault, its attraction and we dont have control over our emotions.. So maybe u can go with him as often as possible till he just gets used to it? Maybe see if a friend of his would also encourage him to go with him?