(Closed) I can’t plan this wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

(HUGS)She was incredibly rude. Sorry you are having crappy experiences like that. It’s easier said than done but try not to let those experiences be a precursor for your entire wedding planning process….you have enough time that you need to take a week or two and just say NO to wedding planning! It really helps.

When we were planning, I got burnt out December-January (holidays) and I just didn’t do a damn thing concerning the wedding! When the holidays were over, I felt better and I wasn’t burnt out anymore and could continue planning.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

She was incredibly rude, what a jerk.

I am not defending her in any shape or form, but 10K may be harder to find in a local shop. Many stick with 14K as a minimum b/c 10K is less than 50% gold. If I were you, I’d look online. I bet you can find a good deal on either Amazon or Overstock.com for 10K, with much more selection than a local store.

It does get overwhelming at times. I’ve had days where I catch myself not even breathing right (like gulping air) b/c I’m overthinking things…. and I’m normally somewhat calm. I agree with PP, there are days — or even weeks — where you have to shut it off and not think about the wedding. You’ll drive yourself nuts.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

So sorry you’re having a hard time with the planning. I never can understand why people think it is there place to be rude and nasty!

Most employees at pawn shops get a commission when they sell something. If this had happened to me I would have said something like “I’m not pregnant if that is what you are implying! Please bring your manager over so I can speak with he/she and also I would like someone else help me with finding my wedding band.”

I tend to be very bitchy when it comes to people acting so dang rude! I always complain when I feel the service is bad. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I understand how you feel, but please just step back and take a deep breath. One bad experience does not set the tone for the rest of your wedding. Going into wedding planning, I thought I was the MOST indecisive person I know. I literally didn’t plan anything for months because I was so overwhelmed with how many options I had for literally everything. So what happened? One day, I decided I liked flowers, particularly vine-y looking flowers. What else happened? I started perusing my stationary, save the dates, decor, etc. and everything started falling into place. I saw vines ALL over the place, where I’d never seen them before simply because I hadn’t been looking. Pick something and run with it. Don’t worry about whether or not it’s perfect. If you love it, it’s perfect for you and everything will fall into place beautifully. I thought wedding decisions would be the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. Turns out they’re some of the easiest. Good luck.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First things first.  The rings don’t need to be purchased right now.  Perhaps you are looking at a long list of tasks and are getting too overwhelmed.

For the first few months, just focus on the big decidions: venue, food, photography, and music.

Seriously.  Just think about having four tasks.  Set a goal for each.  I decided that we had to have our venue and catering picked one month, then a photographyer the next month, then the music figured out the next month.

 

The little things can be done along the way, but you don’t have to be overwhelmed. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Use the internet and bypass all the people you can!

Weddings are stressful unfortunatley as we don’t have any experience in planning social events or parties often so everythign negative is magnified and we become overly emotional and also self conscious.

It will turn out all right!!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Definitely agree with @Eva Peron:, use the internet as much as possible. Also, I did a lot of research before I even chatted with a vendor – weddingbee reviews, weddingwire reviews, yelp, etc. If someone had poor reviews, I didn’t even bother. Weeds out a lot of the unpleasantness!

Don’t worry, I (and I think many of the ladies here) felt like you feel now, at one point or another. Break the tasks down by month, take a little bit at a time, and you can totally do this. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you want to have a wedding (I’m not saying that you don’t want to get married, just that maybe you don’t want to have a big traditional wedding). I don’t think it’s people being nasty to you. If it seems like everyone is being nasty to you, that’s probably not likely. The consistent factor is you, so there’s something going on with you, not everyone else.

So I think you should take some time to really think about whether or not you want to have a wedding and what TYPE of wedding. Would you rather have an intimate, destination wedding? Or even do a low-key, less stress, city hall wedding?

Big traditional weddings are not everyone’s bag. If you’re finding it too stressful to do one, I’d suggest that you reconsider HOW you’re getting married. You don’t want to start off your marriage totally crazed and stressed out. And your fiancee will thank you for it.

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m glad you didn’t take offense to what I was saying and understood what I was saying.

If eloping works for you, then go for it. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the details, what you think you should do, what your friends and family expect, etc. No wonder it’s overwhelming! (And why I actually understand why perfectly normal women become Bridezillas).

Another option to consider if you want small and intimate would be a destination wedding. Places like Jamaica are super cheap and easy. And because they’re cheap, some couples are able to afford to fly out key family and friends. My friend got married there 2 years ago. She and her Fiance flew down a few days before. The resort handled ALL the details. They gave her 3 options for a cake, 3 options for flowers and a few other things. All she had to do was point and the details were taken care of for her.

The important thing to remember while you go through this process is WHY you’re doing it. You’re doing it because you love each other and want to be married to each other. Nothing else matters. If something’s not perfect, or someone’s not happy about something, all those details don’t matter in the end. Good luck!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What a bitch! I probably would have told her off, but that is jus me and my personality (I tol the t-mobile guy he was being a douch one day, Fiance tried not to laugh his butt off). 

But, I wouldn’t worry too much about it because people are just dumb, and rude. It doesn’t mean you can’t plan the wedding, it just means you may have to deal with stupid people…

It will get better, I promise 🙂

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