(Closed) I can't play with other people's babies

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You aren’t alone. I’m generally uncomfortable around infants. I don’t usually feel uncomfortable around the babies of my close family because I just expect them to tell me if I’m not doing something right and I wouldn’t be embarassed or whateve. But generally yes I am really uncomfortable around infants!

I think a lot of it stems from the fact that there is SO much societal pressure on women my age to start popping out babies that everyone is watching you (real or perceived) and judging how you are behaving. I’m one of those people who really only likes kids that I am related to..(until about age 6)

Post # 5
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@anon00:  Not everyone has that instant connnection with every baby, and that is completely fine.

My DH won’t hold or play with his own nephews (they are both under two) lot alone other people’s babies. He just isn’t comfortable interacting with babies but is great with kids. His brother was the same way and had never held a baby until his own kids were born.


Post # 6
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re not alone! I hate playing with other peoples’ babies, unless it’s a close friend or family member. The babies cry, or they just aren’t interested in me, I hate singing the songs or playing the silly peek-a-boo….

If it’s a baby I spend a lot of time with, then the parents need to get out of the way, cos I’ll be cooing ans singing and playing with that baby like there’s no tomorrow. If it’s the baby of someone I don’t know, then I’ll just briefly say “Hello!” and leave it at that.

If the family are getting upset about you not “putting in the effort” just point out “The baby cried every time I picked him up, so I thought he didn’t like me!”

Post # 9
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You’re not alone. I’ll have the obligatory hold… but I have 0 experience in interacting with babies and kids in general and I much prefer to just hang back and let the ‘experts’ do their thing, lol. Being an ‘interesting person’ to a child just doesn’t come naturally to me. 

Post # 10
7272 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@anon00:  I absolutely love babies but I don’t go fight to hold them or get them to play with me either. I ‘lay claim” on my own nephew (and he’ll come to me over people he doesnt know) but when it comes to my cousin’s babies, I generally leave them to their own aunts & uncles. People sometimes take this to mean I don’t like babies… I just don’t want to fight for them. 😛

Post # 13
5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I connect really easily with babies, but toddlers I don’t. It’s totally uncomfortable because i don’t know what to say to them, and I pretty much find most of what they are saying totally boring. LOL I didn’t used to be like this. I used to be much more hands on and nurturing with the older kids!

Post # 14
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Actually I don’t feel comfortable around babies at all. I far prefer children once they reach the little monkey stage. Everyone seems to know this. I am never asked to babysit or even to hold the baby in question – which is just fine by me! I also totally refuse to talk to babies in that high-pitched baby talk. It grates on my nerves and I can only imagine how irritating it is to the baby.


That being said, I totally adored my daughter as a baby. That was different.


And I still dislike being around other people’s babies to this very day. Oh I might say the obligatory “Oh how adorable”, but that’s about it!


Cats are WAY better!


Post # 16
8474 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re not alone… I’m not the biggest fan of babies either… and like you said, how on earth is crying cute!?

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