(Closed) I can't seem to keep it to myself…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 33
Hostess
11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

It is a personal thing really.

Darling Husband and I kept it to ourselves until I was 8 weeks and shared the news with our close family only. I am 12w3d now and I am still not comfortable revealing to everyone via Facebook etc. We will probably wait another week or two.

Post # 34
Member
86 posts
Worker bee

This is why I love Weddingbee so much- it’s the perfect place to share baby news when you have that feeling that you just want to tell someone!

I’m 11wks now and we are going to wait until 14wks to tell anyone. We had 2 m/cs last year so we’re playing things on the save side. I feel like once you tell one person everyone soon finds out. I’m not ready for that yet, I’m enjoying this special little secret that’s just between my Darling Husband and I. 

Post # 35
Member
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I told quite a few people about our pregnancy, and had to tell them all when we lost the baby at 11 weeks. I have to say, though, I still don’t regret telling any of the folks that we told. I’m not the kind of person who wants to grieve privately – all of the friends and family members we shared with are people who are close to us and who have turned out to be great sources of comfort and support. I’m glad that they got a chance to share in our joy, and I’m also glad they’ve been there to support us through this tough time. 

My general rule was that I’d tell anyone who I would probably tell about a miscarriage, if one happened. Parents and sibling? Yep. Close friends? Yep. Work acquaintances? Hell no. 

Do keep in mind, though, that the news does get away from you. My parents told their siblings and my grandma, some of my friends told other friends and that made it a little tough. But my rule was, “If you’re the one who told, you’re the one who has to un-tell.” Saved us a couple of phone calls that we didn’t want to have to make and I think it was a good lesson for the spillers of the beans. 

Post # 37
Bee
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I told many people within the week after I found out I was pregnant. Some close, some not so close. For me, I felt that it was better to share — even the potential difficulty of a possible miscarriage — than not to. Pregnancy, and even loss of pregnancy, is such a universal experience that I think it’s worth candor, even about the hard things. But I am also not a very private (or modest) person, compared to most.

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