- 6 years ago
I apologize in advance for being so long but I really need advice..so here goes:
I cannot sleep (pathetic I know) because of my issue with my future SIL. My fiance has 3 sisters (2 older and 1 younger than us). I get along excellent with the 2 younger ones and want to ask them to be in my bridal party. The oldest one, however, I do not get along with. It’s not that we fight or anything, she just has ZERO consideration for me.
In the 6 years that I have been with my fiance she has never ever gone out of her way to make me feel confortable or “wanted”. During the first month or two of our relationship she was so sweet to me, then all of a sudden she started acting so cold towards me (I never did anything towards her). There were days that I would be over the family’s house and she would walk in the door say hi to everyone except for me.
When my fiances family was going to meet my family for the very first time (they had us over for dinner at fiances parents house) she did the exact same thing- say hi to everyone but me (even my parents noticed it and later made a comment to me about it) Of course now I’m used to it so now I just don’t care anymore but it hurt in the beginning.
Things only got worse once she met her now husband. Hes a fantastic guy (talks to everyone) him and my fiance get along great. You would think the four of us, seeing as we are all around the same age, would do things together but we dont. Sometimes she will text me and I will respond and she never replies my text messages.
She has done that 3 times with me in the past week and it has pissed me off to no end. She is always the one to initiate the conversation then when i respond i get nothing back. At first I gave her the benefit of the doubt thinking she might be busy, but then I see her posting like crazy on facebook (through her droid) then i know that she did see my text messages. Tonight i told fiance about it and he read through the text messages she sent me and he said “i hate to say it but i think those messages were meant for me, i think she made a mistake and sent them to you by accident”…WTF are you serious?! And gee, thanks for telling me. Would it kill her to text me back and say “hey sorry those messages were meant for my brother”. I feel so offended by it, not by the fact that she made a mistake, but by the fact that she doesnt even have the decency to text me with an apology or even text me back at all.
So now I am faced with this awful dilema or figuring out if i want her in my bridal party or not. Part of me says no dont have her she has no consideration for you she doesnt deserve it. But the other part of me thinks itll be awkward if I dont invite her. IDK what to do..someone please enlighten me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!