- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Hi bees, I have some Friday morning drama for ya.
FI’s sister has completely pissed me off, quite possibly to the point of no return.
He and his sister are close, I would even say co-dependent (tough upbringing, all they had was eachother, blah…blah… you get the point). We pay good money for a therapist but he decided one day (after a particularly big argument) to vent to her about our recent issues, which is fine, if she had been able to listen, understand that there are 2 sides and move on with her day, however, instead she decided to call me and scream at me.
She laid into me about how I am putting her brother down, I don’t know what unconditional love is, all of our issues are my fault, I am a snob and a bitch, her family is disgusted by me. I told her to stay out of a grown man’s relationship and stop enabling him to act like a 12 year old. I told her that I am actually demanding he take accountability for his shit. Then I hung up and that was that.
I told Fiance to save the venting for the therapist, if he drags her into our business again I will give up on trying to save the engagement and I will immediately leave him. Maybe that was harsh but I was pissed! I also told him that until she apologizes, I don’t want her anywhere near my home (she usually comes over once a week or so, so her kids can play with his daughter). He spoke to her and asked her to apologize to me and she flat out said no. So, because of that. she isn’t coming over this weekend. He thinks I should let it go, but I disagree. She can drop the kids off at the door and then retrieve them from the door, but she is not coming inside.
I have known this woman a long time. She is, for lack of a better word, a trainwreck, and I have seen her drag her multiple children by multiple men in and out of bad situations with different men, different houses, schools, etc, I have seen her neglect the kids care and wellbeing, her main concern in life is husband number 3 (or maybe 4, I honestly can’t recall) and whatever town drama is going on that day. I don’t respect her, I always struggled with it and after she decided to involve herself in my business I am really struggling with keeping my mouth shut and “forgiving.” In fact, I have to stop myself from writing her a long “snobby and bitchy” email telling her exactly what I think of her. FI just “feels bad for her” but she is a 41 year old woman and could also use a lesson in accountability.
When someone blatantly disrespects you and places their nose in your relationship business – do you “let it go” and “take the high road” or do you put the person in their place? Why or why not?
ETA: I am not looking for life coaching or anything, I am well aware that there are issues with my relationship. I also don’t come on here and post about our great days.
Just opinions on how to handle an intrusive sister.
- This topic was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by lolita1027.