(Closed) I can't stand his sister.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Member
1309 posts
Bumble bee

I thought you gave the ring back? I think you need to take a step back and look at why you are still involved with someone with so much drama. The ex wife, now the sister…it all seems a bit much, no?

Post # 4
Hostess
8759 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

lolita1027:  With your FI’s ex and now the sister, I would be finding it very hard to be in relationship like this. I know you say don’t come here to post about the good days, and that is a very valid point but surely life is too bloody short for a high percentage of it to be filled with such drama and upset?! Hugs to you.

Post # 5
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5882 posts
Bee Keeper

You seem to have more drama in one week than most people have in a lifetime, I think you need to start looking at your part in all of this. Either you thrive on drama yourself or you make poor choices that thrust you into the midst of other people’s dysfunction. But this just is simply too much. 

Post # 6
Member
39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Always take the high road. Always be the bigger person.

Post # 7
Member
4238 posts
Honey bee

lolita1027:  

Do I think your FI’s sister sounds like an interesting character (diplomatic wording)? Yes. Does your Fiance want her to come inside and visit with him while the cousins play together? If so, then your beef is kinda with him over that issue, right?

 

 

Post # 8
Member
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Breckenridge, CO

RobbieAndJuliahaha:  Agreed.

OP, you’re obviously getting something out of this (horrible, oh my god why would you ever sign up for this, run away YESTERDAY) situation 

Post # 9
Member
3092 posts
Sugar bee

Girl, when I WAS married, my ex’s sister and he were attached at the hip and she used to do stuff like this.  I completely cut her off and till this day, she still hates me. I no longer have to deal thank God.

But I do not agree that you should allow someone to rip you a new one and that’s being a pushover.  You need to be assertive about your life because you teach people how to treat you.  I am all for putting her in her place (no screaming) and tell her that if she cant communicate with you respectfully, she need not communicate with you at all.

Lastly, you open up yourself for this when you confide in someone like her.  I understand that we all have issues at times but the worst thing you can do is bring family into it. 9 times out of 10, they will be biased.

Post # 13
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2942 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What about this guy is so amazing that makes you put up with all the drama around him? 

Post # 14
Member
494 posts
Helper bee

Regardless of your personal feelings towards his sister, it is still his sister. Even if you disagree with her lifestyle but it’s important for him to have his sister a part of his life, you really should discuss a solution that would be fair to BOTH of you. Even if her approach was wrong, she clearly cares about her brothers well being. You even admit that your relationship is in trouble. It’s his place to tell her where the line is drawn. He is the one placed in the middle, having to protect 2 women he cares for.

Maybe I’m wrong but you come off very young and I don’t believe you are ready to handle all this relationship has to offer. Way too much drama!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  MJ2017.
Post # 15
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2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

lolita1027:  I am not looking for life coaching or anything, I am well aware that there are issues with my relationship. I also don’t come on here and post about our great days

I don’t know what other advice anyone can give you besides to end your engagement. With everything you post, it’s a broken record of “This isn’t a healthy relationship”.

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