(Closed) I can’t stop planning and we don’t even have a timeline…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
60 posts
Worker bee

I am so like you! I am a planner and I got really addicted to it. I ended up sharing some of the stuff I’d found with my SO once we were having conversations and a timeline in place. And since then I have been able to control it a bit more. Although spent far too much time on here today!! I think for those of us who are planners it is really hard not to have control when we don’t know if and when its going to happen. I think planning helps us take some of the control back! 🙂


Post # 18
52 posts
Worker bee

Hi there Kit Kath, I also started planning early. MY SO is a huge planner, and likes to know the specifics of something before moving forward, so I started doing research on venues, budget, and so forth. I went nuts with the pre-planning for awhile. 

It turned out to be a positive thing, because I was overwhelmed when I first started looking at wedding-related stuff. I at least have some idea of what to expect when I begin planning in earnest. It will keep me from throwing my hands up and saying ‘forget it! Let’s just elope.’ when we do get engaged. Nothing wrong with that idea either- but my head was spinning from the information overload, and it was almost enough to make me reconsider even having a wedding. Eventually, I found lots of resources to help plan a decent wedding on a tight budget, and felt good about the whole thing. I have a folder on my computer that conatins hundreds of wedding inspiration imags. 

As for how to ‘squash the planning bug,’ I don’t have very good advice, but here is my experience: after a month or two of obssesive wedding blog reading and planning, I burnt myself out. I still enjoying checking out the wedding section on Pinterest, or reading the occassional blog post, but I’ve simply grown tired of looking at wedding-related things. I’ve actually aked my SO to step up and tell me what he would like in a wedding, because I’m tired of looking at coming up with ideas!

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