Post # 1
I’m hooked on playing games on my iPad, maybe it’s not quite as drastic as ruining my life but it is lowering the standard of quality of my life.
There’s so many things I want to do when I get home from work but don’t do it. Instead I stay home pull out my iPad and start playing these dumb games. Maybe work is subconsciously stressful to me and I go on the iPad to shut my brain off instead of dealing with the hard stuff in life. Maybe I’m just lazy too.
It’s like being a smoker, you kick yourself everytime you have one because you know its so bad for you but you can’t stop yourself. And then you get pissed off with yourself for not having any self-control.
There’s so much more to experience in life and that time is being sucked up by playing games. I only have myself to blame. I know people who spend their evenings learning a new language, going to the gym, being social – life-enriching stuff. Me, I just play games, stuff I’m way too embarassed to admit to anyone. I always ask my DH, “are you turned off when I do ths?” I want to stop being a child and start being an adult. I actually feel like a loser!
Is anyone else experiencing the same problem?
Post # 3
you could always not pull out the ipad until you get done what you want. Also I find staying away from the internet in general helps. You could even put those parental controls on that only allow you a certain amount of time on it until you get a hold on it! Granted you can override it with the pw… unless you tell your SO to lock it then you won’t know the PW!
Post # 4
Parental controls, so sad! See it is like as if I’m a child. I’m 32 yrs old 🙁
Not many comments, I wonder if I’m alone in this haha.
The Bees addicted to games are probably doing just that right now – playing games!
Post # 5
It’s not too sad. A lot of people are addicted to the internet/games and don’t admit it. Seriously look for other things to do to entertain you and unwind. There’s nothing wrong with a little bit of game playing but too much is not a good thing. Maybe go cold turkey for a week or so to help you out. That way you realize that you’re really not missing much.
Post # 6
@PetalFace: I play games but I don’t have any problems putting them down, my biggest time waster is stupid sites like reddit. I eventually just have to step away from the computer. FI is totally addicted to games (he’s playing one right now actually) and when he has things he needs to do (like school) he just puts them away to get rid of temptation.
Post # 7
Nope, you’re not alone.
& frankly I think there are a LOT of us on these boards, considering how many bees post over 50 times a day.
I don’t play computer games, but I do stalk forums & chat. See, I’m not a very social person “in the real world” because I am an introvert, but I still crave human interaction so this is the perfect solution for me. However, it has sucked me in more than I wish it had, & I have been actively trying to pull myself away when I get home so that I can do house work etc..
Post # 8
You’re a casual gamer as far as I’m concerned! I was playing an MMORPG up until two years ago (I got too high level and was bored out of my mind half the time).
Maybe you could use the games as a kind of quick reward for finishing something? Wash the dishes, and then play a five-minute game of Candy Crush or something. It worked for me with getting through incredibly boring homework.
Post # 9
@MrsSkeletonKey: same here! the only reason I’m not playing games is because I’m on here! But at least I’m learning something being on these boards. I was using WB for venting at first now I just love looking other Bees’ weddings!
My DH has given out in to me in the past for playing too much games and not enough pulling my weight when it comes to housework. In fact, he said one of the reasons why he was slow to propose to him was because I didn’t do housework enough and that was because I was playing games.
Post # 10
As a hardcore gamer (My husband and I make your gaming look like child’s play — no jokes) I would not say I’m wasting my life. I’m doing things I enjoy, and if I enjoy my time, it isn’t wasted.
I have zero desire to learn a new language, or go out purely for the idea of being social.
Once a week, my husband and I go out with our neighbor friends, and we play games together. This week, we’ll be going to see a movie and then most likely going back to playing games.
I still read books, watch movies, work out, do the things that need to be done, but there is no shame in spoiling yourself. I would not say any form of gaming is a problem unless it stops you from doing the things you need to do. I used games as a reward for doing homework when I was a kid, or I’d take five or ten minutes to veg out and watch stupid reality TV.
As long as you are doing the things that need to be done and not slacking off on any important responsibilities, I see no harm.
Post # 11
Set a timer for an hour. When the timer rings, turn the ipad off no matter what. Gradually decrease the time allowance.
And make sure you have other things to do. I am a bit addicted to the internet. I spend so much time staring at a screen – all day at work, and then at home. A lot of people do this. It’s an easy escape, takes no effort.
These things help: have a good book to turn to, plan weekend events in advance (find cool free ones), set aside a poker night or date dinner night, do “grounding” activities like cleaning the kitchen or cooking a meal. Good luck 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t play games but I get where you are coming from because I do/did feel the same way about the internet in general. i spend all day working on the computer. Then nights/weekends I spend on the computer too. Just dicking around, mostly. One thing that has really helped me lately is 1) acknowledging how much better I feel about my day when I DO something and 2) forcing myself to do things.
For example, I’ve started keeping a to-do list of things i have to or want to do. And when I have a big chunk of time I think okay I need to accomplish at least 1 of these things. Bc If I spend 6 hours on pinterest i’m going to be annoyed at myself. lol
Post # 13
@Mokara: Thanks for telling me that I don’t have it that bad 🙂
Yeah I play the baby games lol! I wouldn’t say I’m a gamer. I grew up in a family that played video games alot, I was the only kid that was too afraid to play supermario because of the feeling I get when I ‘die’!
So far PPs who are gaming or know others who are gaming are still in school. Everyone is still quite young. I’m of that age that its really time to kick this habbit and do some grownup stuff.
Post # 14
@PetalFace: Easier said than done, but take charge of the tasks you must do. If it is an issue, and it sounds like it is, every night make a list of what you need to do. Get it done, then play video games if you want. I love the sims, I do not play every day, maybe once a month. But the day I do play don’t go interupting me! It is only unhealthy if it is affecting your life and relationships. I hardly think when you reach a certain age you have to ditch certain hobbies unless they become your life rather than your hobby.
Post # 15
I used to be super addicted to Farmville on Facebook. Like to the point where I had to plan when I was going to plant certain crops so that they wouldn’t wither before I got home or woke up or whatever. Then they kept adding more farms/levels, and before I knew it, I could spend a good hour or so just tending them…
Then one day I looked at my bank account statement, and realized how much I had actually spent to get things on the game (stupid, I know). So each day I played it a little less, and when I went on vacation for a couple of weeks, I reailzed how much I didn’t miss it. And now I have it blocked, as well as most other games, so people can’t send me requests so I don’t get tempted.
That being said, if it’s something you like, then I don’t see anything. If you’re skipping work or important events or whatever, then maybe you have a problem. But I agree with other Bees, maybe setting a timer to limit how much time you spend playing games!
Post # 16
@PetalFace: Have you thought about selling your iPad? They have great re-sale value and you could use that money to enjoy a new past time! (gym, dinners out, etc.)