Post # 1
Bees, I can’t stop thinking about rings!
Since SO told me to figure out what I want, looking at rings and thinking about them takes up so much of my time and thoughts that I can barely get anything else done.
I want to make sure that I won’t regret what I get, so I’m constantly comparing and re-thinking what I want.
I have a few faourite styles narrowed down, but I can’t decide!
Any other Bees who chose their own rings go through this indecisiveness? How did you finally decide??
Post # 3
@lumos: It’s kind of like deciding on a dress. You just know it is the one. For me, I gave no other ring a 2nd thought but once I saw the one I have, I didn’t even want or need to look anymore. I had found “the one”.
Post # 4
Ahhhh I know your pain. I know my SO has put my ring on lay-by but I did not get to choose it. I am so nervous about what it looks like and if I will like it. I know it is all about the sentimental value but I feel so overwhelmed because I couldn’t pick it myself lol. I think the best thing for me to do is to stop looking at rings because if he doesn’t pick ‘the one’ I have chosen I may get upset… Back to your question.. I am not overly sure what you should do about it but maybe you should go shopping together and go with your gut feeling. Find a ring that both of you really like 🙂
That would be so sepcial xx
Post # 5
We shopped together to look at styles and stone shapes a few months before he proposed. We didn’t pick out an exact ring so it was still a surprise when he did propose. Luckily it seems that we both have the same taste because he chose the cushion cut for me, which was my favorite cut!
Post # 6
i feel like “the one” doens’t exist for me given my tastes and the general style that engagment rings tend to have. i’ve seen plenty that would suffice and that look perfectly lovely. i’m also kind of afraid of finding one that i absolutely love and then not being able to get it. although i keep finding myself looking at jewelry, i’m trying not to get too attached to anything in particular. in that sense, i’m kind of excited to not pick out my own ring, i’ll just let boyfriend worry about all this instead. XD
that’s not much for advice, but i guess just don’t worry too much about it? and don’t rush the decision. let your mind digest all the different styles by not looking at rings for a few days maybe. in the end, get something that you’ll both like and that you’ll be comfortable wearing. if you find something you like better in a few years, you could always upgrade.
Post # 7
@2ndtime: I hope it’s gonna be like that!
I have a ring right now, but it’s kind of a stand in until we can afford my dream ring, which I will design myself.. I’ve been sure for months that I want a cushion cut morganite in rose gold setting, but in the last couple of weeks, the doubting started.. I find myself drawn to emerald cut moissonite in white gold.
I blame it on not ever wearing jewelry before, and try to comfort myself with the idea that I can have as many right hand rings as I like 😀
Post # 8
Mhm, We did the ringshopping together, he saw this ring on my finger and said “That ring is so you, it looks amazing”. And it is. Never looked back since. It was so nice having him there and helping me out. His ring-choosing took like 10 minutes, my ring took 1 hour until we found mine because I couldn’t stop staring at all the blingy things.
It’s alot of gut feeling as well, just go with what you feel like.
Post # 9
Ha ha been there and completely understand. You want the ring to be perfect and why not, it is only going to be on your hand forever.
My Fiance and did quite a bit of shopping to figure out what I really wanted for cut, design etc. In the end I was so frustrated that we ended up going to the custom route because I couldn’t find anything that was everything I wanted. This way I got all the bits of pieces of various rings all rolled into one.
Best of luck and don’t fret, you’ll find something amazing!
Post # 10
@lumos: Trying rings on might help you get a better idea of what you like on you rather than just what you like when you see it online. 🙂
I had wore and or tried on a round brilliant, emerald, princess cut, heart, ect. So my husband put a princess cut solitaire on layaway because I thought that is what I wanted. I looked online & seen a few marquise solitaires & I just knew I wanted one. So the next day I tried one on & bam! I got a marquise solitaire. I think it does help to try them on alot more than just looking at pictures. Give it a try one day for fun & see what makes your heart smile!
Post # 11
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: I agree. You have to try them on. Like dresses! You don’t know how it is going to look on you until you try it on. Especially with rings. Most rings look beautiful in a stock photo, not on anyone’s finger.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I will 3rd the “try them on” suggestion. What you like in photos and on other people’s hand may feel all wrong when you put it on your own finger. I originally thought I wanted something vintage, then fell in love with halos and pave diamonds. But when I tied on halos and pave trimmed rings they were all wrong for me. I looked in at least 6 or 7 jewelry stores before finally going the custom route because nothing in stores felt “just right”.
Post # 13
We looked together online. The problem we had was that we both liked almost everything we looked at. I’m really indecisive when it comes to choosing things of importance. We ended up picking one out that I found out was way more than I was comfortable with him spending, so we just stopped in the local jewelry store one day to look at what they had and I tried on a few, but there was no feeling that any of them were the one, even though they were all beautiful. Then the salesman brought one out from the front window and I nearly died when I saw it. As soon as I put it on my finger and looked at my fiancé’s face, I knew it was the one.
Post # 14
Definitely agree about trying them on – I was constantly surprised by how different things looked in a picture or case and how they looked on my hand. I always thought I’d get a halo ring, but when I put them on my hand, it was way too much. Plus, it’s a lot of pressure to try to pick jewelry you’re going to like indefinitely.
And just to reassure you you’re not alone – I was the most indecisive person ever when picking out rings. Even when I found the one Mr. PB eventually ended up getting, I still couldn’t make that final yes decision. It’s funny, because I had no problem deciding on Mr. PB, but something as small as a piece of jewelry totally threw me! In the end, I didn’t really decide – Mr. PB knew what I had seen, and what I had liked and disliked, so I just left it in his capable hands to make the final decision!
Post # 15
I had the same problem. He ended up going to several stores and getting the brochures they had to offer. I didnt want to pick out a ring with him because I wanted to be suprised but if you show him options of rings that you like then he will make the right decision for you. I know a ring is a big deal but let him have some options when picking it out and he will be so happy too. He just wants to make you happy thats all. Narrow it down to maybe 3 that you love.
Post # 16
I was so confused by all of the rings I was looking at and I knew my style but which ONE of that style?! It was very frustrating!! So we decided to have one designed. That way I got a part of each of the rings I liked, in one ring! (Still WAITING for it though..) Good Luck !!! 🙂