I can't stop thinking that he might propose on our next vacation…

posted 3 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Instead of speculating to Internet strangers who know nothing about your situation, have an open, direct talk with your partner. You’re not being “pushy” for making sure the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is still on the same page. It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship, don’t let that love turn into resentment because you put your future into someone else’s hands. Just ask him, “Hey, do you still want to be engaged by the time I’m 27? What really matters to me is that I’m married by 30. Let me know if your thoughts change.”

I also think it’s really important that you pick out the ring together, you can still have your big fancy surprise proposal after the fact. But that’s just me. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I agree with PP, if you haven’t talked about it at all since the “when you’re 27” talk, then that’s where you need to start. You’re not pushy to bring up timelines. It’s getting the both of you on the same page. Have a conversation with your SO, and see what they say. At least you will go into the trip and know whether or not it will happen. Personally, no, I don’t think that you will be proposed to on this trip. I feel like they have not even considered it yet. 

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Bumble bee

I would wait and see what happens on your Disney trip, since you seem to have a pretty strong gut feeling that this will be it. Don’t get yourself too worked up or excited (hard, I know) and enjoy yourself no matter what. Disney is amazing. 😊 

If he doesn’t propose next week, I think it’s perfectly reasonable to sit down with him after you get home to tell him what your thoughts were as to the proposal happening on the trip and that you’re now somewhat disappointed, confused, and wondering if his timeline is still the same, as you’re now 27. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

bouviebee :  Totally agree with this recommendation. Definitely WAIT and go on the trip. If you bring it up with him now, he may confess to having a proposal planned, and it’ll ruin the surprise!

But try not to think about it too much – just enjoy yourself and the “will he/wont he?” stage! Have a wonderful vacation. It sounds like you are both on the same page in terms of a timeline, so be patient 🙂 

Post # 7
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Newbee

I can’t provide any insight, but I just wanted to wish you luck, and wish you both happiness! 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I absolutely love your ring bee, congratulations! singingbee92 :  

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Gorgeous! Congratulations!

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