(Closed) I can't take it anymore.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i feel overwhelmed sometimes too, and my wedding is not till may.. that said i suffer from anxiety and panic disorder, and moderate OCD, sometimes i wonder why he wants to marry me, but i did seek treatment from the doc and with some trial and error we did find a treatment that was right for me, and a lot seems more managable. thats just my two cents and personal experience, everyone is different, its very possible you are simply overwhelmed, just remember it will all settle down soon, and as long as youre happy with the man that will soon be your husband, everything in world is fine. hope this helps and good luck with everything!

Post # 4
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1895 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i just wrote a post about being totally over it, all of it…. its the stress.. and there is no reason to stress… what i keep telling myself is that the only thing that needs to go right on the day, is that i MARRY Fiance.. everything else can crumble… i dont care…

Post # 5
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m gonna guess that you’re young (young bees, chill, this is positive) because you’re moving from 1 emotional post to the next.  Emotional issues seem super stressful at this point in your life and that’s perfectly normal.  Its just how your brain operates.

My suggestion to comabt this brain chemsitry/dramatic impulses is to just WAIT.  Wait a few minutes or hours before you vent.  Spend some time reading, go for a walk, or take a nap.  It always gets better.  You’re not a terrible person or a burden.  Just wait it out.

Post # 8
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can you get away from the wedding planning for a bit? Even just an hour to get your nails done, have lunch with a friend, take a bubble bath, or exercise?

I get ovewhelmed by the wedding, school, work, and relationships too. I find that taking time for myself definitely eases the stress. Also, realizing that it’s not the end of the world if I don’t do this, that, etc. makes every task easier to swallow.

Post # 9
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2270 posts
Buzzing bee

For all bees with panic and anxiety, i HIGHLY recommend Dr. Carbonell’s book “panic attacks workbook”. It is a Cognitive Behavioral therapy book and I got it on amazon.com for $14.

I went from agoraphobic (afraid to leave my house for fear of panicking), to not having panicked in almost two years, and I finally got my driver’s license a year ago.

Dr. Carbonell’s website is anxietycoach.com.

Post # 11
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Every day try to take a few minutes just for you.  Even if you do nothing more than sit in a room by yourself for 10 minutes.  Try to read or listen to music or anything to relax for just a few minutes and take your mind off everything else.  You have a lot going on right now so even a few minutes will make you feel better.  I like to take a bath and read in the tub.  That’s my “me” time that I enjoy 3-4 times per week. 🙂

Post # 13
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@alishaloo:  Pick up another book!  Quick!!  🙂

 

Post # 15
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Nothing is wrong with you! But, I think it’s important to hold fast to your own goals and what makes you happy. Marriage is a rite of passage, and that means that it’s a big testing ground for your identity. You and your Fiance are establishing yourselves as a new family unit, and that can be rough – but it’s one of the most important things you’ll do. It determines the logistics of family interactions for years to come!

Post # 16
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hon, I have been feeling the same way! After a year of hearing everyone’s opinions about everything, criticism, negativity…I AM DONE! I just snuggle up w/ my Fiance and ask him to make the wedding go away lol. Seriously though, there’s nothing wrong with you, it’s a lot to handle. You will be fine, try to tackle one task every day, and once it’s done, take some time for yourself. Deep breaths : )

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