I cant take it as long as my husband takes HELP PLZ

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

chloe629 :  OMG…. Two hours of penetrative sex??! Your poor vagina! Reading that had mine involuntarily close up like a clam in horror! 

OP, everything you said is extremely alarming. He sounds controlling and completely disrespectful towards you. You are not his sex toy. Do you actually ever orgasm during these two hour daily sessions? From the sounds of it, these daily two hour sessions are all about his orgasm and his sexual needs. You are not his slave in or out of the bedroom. Nobody should ever guilt you or pressure you into having sex. This plus everything else you’ve written  is extremely alarming and I hope reading the responses here helps you realise this. Controlling, abusive and selfish behaviour is never OK and it is never ever a part of a healthy loving relationship. 

 

Post # 47
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Helper bee

slomotion :  When he gets rid of the clock instead of the cock

Hence my suggestion to start shoving things up his arse.  “Hey, where’s that ringing coming from??  Hon?..”

Post # 48
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

ecrisrien :  lol.  this is NOT a thing.  Such a WEIRD statement!!

chloe629 :  OP, you said you felt this was the biggest issue.  What are the other issues?

Post # 49
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

chloe629 :  with quickies he doesnt feel fully satisfied since he he cant work up all the cum.

Also adding that his orgasm might not feel as intense during a shorter sex session but why does he think (and you think) his orgasm and sexual pleasure trumps yours? Most couples enjoy different things to eachother during sex but they usually work it so that both get to enjoy sex and they generally take turns to make sure everyone gets their favourites list ticked. 

Two hours of penetrative sex and you saying you literally have to sit on your husbands face to get him to reciprocate doesn’t sound like your list is that important to your husband. He sounds selfish and what’s worse is that he’s got you thinking his sexual needs and non sexual needs are the only ones that matter. 

 

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

OUCH!!!!!! 2 flipping hours? There is no way in hell nope. 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

slomotion :  When he gets rid of the clock instead of the cock

Nearly snorted my water right out my nose! This thread, and especially your comments, are seriously therapeutic for my inner 20-something who naively suffered through those horrible clockless and cock-filled nights! 

I just hope it’s also beneficial – and enlightening – for OP.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee

He sounds disgusting. He doesn’t want to go out and do anything with you because that is cutting into the tune he could have you. Seriously sounds like that is all he cares about which is gross and possessive. 

It sounds like you have bigger issues then sex going on here. 

Post # 55
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

chloe629 :  Again…why aren’t you allowed to go out alone? 

Post # 56
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Blushing bee

This sounds controlling and possibly sexually coercive or abusive to me

Post # 57
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Helper bee

Yay?

P.S. I may be just really lame and old, but 30 mins of cunnilingus/fellatio + 45 mins of foreplay still sounds exhausting to me. You do you, though, or he do you as the case may be.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee

So you’re still having 1hr 15 mins of sex every day? Is this what you want? Because that’s an awful lot of sex for most people. 

Forget about what he wants for one moment, do you want to be having sex this often and for this long? Just because he’s your husband it doesn’t mean you have to agree to have sex when you don’t want to.

My partner has turned me down plenty of times for sex and vice versa for various reasons and neither of us get offended. Sometimes you’re just not in the mood or you’re too tired. The point is you can say no, and you should be able to say no without fear of his reaction. You don’t have to ask him to please have less sex with you, or try to negotiate it down to one hour instead of two etc. If you don’t want to have sex or you’re not enjoying it any more that’s the end of discussion, because no one should be having sex they don’t want to have. It’s very concerning that he is happy to have sex with you when you don’t want it and will punish you if you say no. That’s coercion and sexual abuse.  

Your relationship overall sounds abusive and controlling, a lot of people cannot see this when they’re in the relationship themselves, but as outsiders we are all telling you this not normal and it is not acceptable for him to treat you this way. Please please rethink this marriage as you deserve so much better. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee

Run out of things to do? Are you both 16 and broke? Because working functioning adults can have interests, hobbies, extra jobs, sports, friends, family’s – basically a whole planet out there with so much to offer.

sounds like an excuse to me.

I’m curious, what’s going to happen when a child comes along eventually ? Will he/she also have to fit his/her burping and sleeping schedule around the parents marathon sex sessions? 

“Honey don’t change the diaper now, its cutting into the time I could have you!” 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Somehow the update doesn’t make me feel any better.

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