(Closed) i caught him….

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@ctobride2be:  It wouldn’t bother me at all but I’m one of those women that doesn’t care if her BF watches porn. Sometimes I’ll even watch it with him, it just depends.

And no, I wouldn’t take it personal. Men are visual creatures. It has nothing to do with you so don’t be offended by it. That’s just my two cents. 

Post # 4
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have walked in on DH (back when we were engaged) and it did not bother me in the slightest. I apologized and left the room. Poor thing was so embarassed that he was caught. He thought I was going to rip his ass apart! I was not offended or hurt, masturbation is healthy and natural (in my opinion). I do it often as well and it has nothing to do with how sexually satisfied I am with my husband. It just means I want to be selfish, get off quick and go on about my business.




Post # 5
11736 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d probably just laugh and be like oops sorry see ya soon! I don’t think it will ever happen since if DH masturbates, he definitely doesn’t do it when I’m home.

I wouldn’t take it personally at all. Masturbating and sex are two different things and doing one doesn’t preclude someone from doing the other. Unless masturbating has a negative affect on your sex life, there’s nothing wrong with it.

Post # 6
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@ctobride2be:  I would ask him if he needed a hand and forget about it….that’s not about you….solo lovin is a part of our sex lives too.

Post # 7
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think I’d help him out, while allowing him to still watch. It would diffuse the situation and let him know he doesn’t need to hide stuff like that from you!

Post # 8
3370 posts
Sugar bee

@ctobride2be:  It would be weird, but I would not take it personally. I don’t feel the same helping myself out as I do when we have sex. It’s a completely different feeling. I would assume it’s the same for guys. He wanted a little fantasy time. No reflection on you. 🙂

Post # 9
54 posts
Worker bee

I’d feel pretty embarassed that I didn’t knock.

Post # 10
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Honestly I think I would laugh if I walked in on him and if I were in the mood I would probably offer to help him finish the job.  Porn isn’t a big deal and as long as it isn’t affecting your sex life there is no reason to worry about it.

Post # 12
6036 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@ctobride2be:  I wouldn’t be offended at all and probably would have just said ‘oops! carry on!” and walked out. I do it, he does it, and it’s a natural part of being a sexual being. Porn doesn’t really bother me much and we have even watched it together. I would let it go

Post # 14
4094 posts
Honey bee

@ctobride2be:  I wouldn’t take it personally, I’d feel bad that I embarassed him by walking in! Sometimes there’s a little part of me that wants to be like “am I not good enough?” then I remember I do it too, and it’s not because I’m not wildly attracted to my DH or happy with our sex life. It’s really not something to worry about.

Post # 15
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Don’t take it personally. It’s not that he’s choosing the porn over you, just that maybe he was in the mood for  quick and easy but wasn’t really in the mood to have sex. I’m definitely guilty of that. Sometimes it’s just easier to have a quick one by yourself than to have sex for 30-40 minutes. Sometimes you just want to get it done without worrying about pleasing another person, you know?



Post # 16
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ctobride2be:  I would point at my husband and laugh. Then again, if he walked in on me and did that I would be annoyed.


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