Post # 1
I walked in to my fiancé masturbating to porn! I was shocked and walked away. I’m trying not to think of it so much, but I’m bothered by this. We’re both in our late 20s and have a healthy sex life.
How would you feel if you walked in on your s/o masturbating to porn?
Would you take it personal? Especially if this is the first time you’ve noticed it.
Post # 3
@ctobride2be: It wouldn’t bother me at all but I’m one of those women that doesn’t care if her BF watches porn. Sometimes I’ll even watch it with him, it just depends.
And no, I wouldn’t take it personal. Men are visual creatures. It has nothing to do with you so don’t be offended by it. That’s just my two cents.
Post # 4
I have walked in on DH (back when we were engaged) and it did not bother me in the slightest. I apologized and left the room. Poor thing was so embarassed that he was caught. He thought I was going to rip his ass apart! I was not offended or hurt, masturbation is healthy and natural (in my opinion). I do it often as well and it has nothing to do with how sexually satisfied I am with my husband. It just means I want to be selfish, get off quick and go on about my business.
Post # 5
I’d probably just laugh and be like oops sorry see ya soon! I don’t think it will ever happen since if DH masturbates, he definitely doesn’t do it when I’m home.
I wouldn’t take it personally at all. Masturbating and sex are two different things and doing one doesn’t preclude someone from doing the other. Unless masturbating has a negative affect on your sex life, there’s nothing wrong with it.
Post # 6
@ctobride2be: I would ask him if he needed a hand and forget about it….that’s not about you….solo lovin is a part of our sex lives too.
Post # 7
I think I’d help him out, while allowing him to still watch. It would diffuse the situation and let him know he doesn’t need to hide stuff like that from you!
Post # 8
@ctobride2be: It would be weird, but I would not take it personally. I don’t feel the same helping myself out as I do when we have sex. It’s a completely different feeling. I would assume it’s the same for guys. He wanted a little fantasy time. No reflection on you. 🙂
Post # 9
I’d feel pretty embarassed that I didn’t knock.
Post # 10
Honestly I think I would laugh if I walked in on him and if I were in the mood I would probably offer to help him finish the job. Porn isn’t a big deal and as long as it isn’t affecting your sex life there is no reason to worry about it.
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@ctobride2be: I wouldn’t be offended at all and probably would have just said ‘oops! carry on!” and walked out. I do it, he does it, and it’s a natural part of being a sexual being. Porn doesn’t really bother me much and we have even watched it together. I would let it go
Post # 13
@ctobride2be: I probably would have just laughed. I don’t see the big deal.
Post # 14
@ctobride2be: I wouldn’t take it personally, I’d feel bad that I embarassed him by walking in! Sometimes there’s a little part of me that wants to be like “am I not good enough?” then I remember I do it too, and it’s not because I’m not wildly attracted to my DH or happy with our sex life. It’s really not something to worry about.
Post # 15
Don’t take it personally. It’s not that he’s choosing the porn over you, just that maybe he was in the mood for quick and easy but wasn’t really in the mood to have sex. I’m definitely guilty of that. Sometimes it’s just easier to have a quick one by yourself than to have sex for 30-40 minutes. Sometimes you just want to get it done without worrying about pleasing another person, you know?
Post # 16
@ctobride2be: I would point at my husband and laugh. Then again, if he walked in on me and did that I would be annoyed.