(Closed) I caved on the flower girls just for dear mama………

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We are having a no kids under 16 rule (at the receptions) I dont mind them at the ceremony. (its kind of impossible, my Fiance is one of 13 kids and 76 grandchildren!) We are having 2 flower girls, my FI’s youngest sister (she is 6) and his Brothers daughter (she is 3) Luckily they both have dresses because my Future Sister-In-Law got married in august and she had them in her wedding as well. I would ask around for stuff like shoes and dresses, you never know what people have laying around and i would stick to your guns about no kids besides those in the wedding party.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Could you help offset the cost of the dresses or the babysitter?I think it’s pretty sucky to say “hey buy all this stuff and come participate in the ceremony, but you can’t come have dinner with us)

We had a no-kids rule, also, except for the child in the wedding. He was our nephew and his grandma came to babysit him at the wedding that night (since the other grandma was the groom’s mom! My SIL just brought her Mother-In-Law along). It worked out beautifully–kid was whisked away early enough for his bed time and he had a constant sitter all night in case he got fussy so that his mom (DH’s sister, who was in the wedding), was able to enjoy herself. My nephew was at home and in bed by 9pm.

who are the youngest cousin’s parents? Chances are they will not attend the reception if they don’t get a sitter…

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My flower girls dress only cost $40 even with shipping, so if you are at all flexible on what they wear, just look around a bit.  Places online like Ebay, http://www.myangelickids.com, Target, etc can have some gorgeous dresses for very very inexpensive.  I wouldn’t worry about the cost too much.  If they are worried about how much the dresses cost for their daughters then they can always say no to her being a flower girl!

Make sure you explain how it’s going to be very carefully to them though, so that they understand that the girls are invited ONLY for the ceremony!  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why is it so bad for kids to be at a wedding? I understand a reception might run too late so a sitter would be great  for that time frame but in general why do brides object to kids?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

so its not kids you object to but bad parents;)

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