(Closed) I changed my mind on the ring

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
8038 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@asianbee:  No offence, but if you can’t even talk to him about a ring, are you sure that you’re ready to marry the guy?

Post # 4
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have changed my mind on rings several times and always just tell my boyfriend. I make sure it’s something I really want first, which it sounds like you’ve done, and then I tell him that I’ve been thinking a bit more about what I want for the ring. He always understands and usually calls me silly and gives me a big hug. Especially since it’s been so long since you’ve talked about it I think it’d be fine if you just tell him that since then you’ve had a chance to actually look at rings and you have a better idea of what you want now. Since you don’t think he’s looked at rings I think he should be fine with it : ) Also the charity idea is wonderful!

Congratulations on your impending engagement and good luck talking to him!

Post # 5
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You need to talk to him, and it’s really not a big deal to do that. If you’re uncomfortable with this, and if he gets upset at you for some reason, I would really ask yourself if you can be in a relationship where such topics can’t be talked about. 

I have changed my mind on ring sizes, material, etc., and told my SO whenever that would happen. It’s better to get what you would actually like to wear for many years to come than to have something you are less-than-thrilled with.

Post # 7
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It won’t ruin the surprise. You won’t know for sure what he’s going to do. Just send him an email saying you changed your mind and there’s this cool stone called Moissanite that’s a space rock that’s so pretty you fell in love. You don’t care what he decides, but just wanted to give him a heads up/update sort of thing. Love you, bye, the end.

I always just let SO know if I’ve found something I like. I’m pretty positive he’s settled on one and I’m pretty sure I know which it is, but I don’t feel like the surprise is ruined. I have no idea how or when he’s going to propose. So, to me, that equals surprise.

Good luck!

Post # 8
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

If you really want a moissanite, you need to talk to him about it. My SO wasn’t keen on them because he thought people would think he was cheap. Then when he realized I really wanted one, and I showed him more info on them, he came around to the idea of getting one.

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