Post # 1
Right after we got married, I changed my name from First Middle MyLast to First Middle HisLast. But now I’m thinking of changing it again, to First MyLast HisLast, so that my maiden name takes the place of my current middle name, and my current middle name just goes away.
The reasons why I want to do this are a) I miss my old last name a little, b) my middle name has no real significance (my parents just thought it sounded nice with my first name) and c) for professional reasons, I think it would be better to go by First MyLast HisLast.
The trouble is, I don’t really want to go through all that effort again to change everything. Should I just keep the current setup as my legal name, and for resumes and work-related stuff, just go by First MyLast HisLast? Anyone else doing that? Does it ever cause you problems?
Any other people who changed their name more than once after the wedding?
Post # 3
Is there are a reason you can’t have First Middle Yourlast Hislast?
Post # 4
I think you have to go throught the courts now and do a legal name change. You get one shot at putting it the way you want on the marriage certificate to do it the easy way. But to answer your question.. nope, it was annoying enough to change it once, I dont plan on bothering to do it again.
Post # 5
Professionally you can go by anything you want! So I vote for First YourLast HisLast. I sign most of my emails with MyName (Maiden) HisLast, so that my clients aren’t confused by my new last name.
Post # 6
Okay, I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to change it now without getting a court involved, and blah, who wants to do that? Sucks that you can’t just change it when you want, but I suppose I get why that’s the way it is.
@VickyAurea: I just wasn’t a fan of having two middle or two last names. Seems to confuse things on forms here, since the most common format is First Middle Last.
@JustMarriedinDC: That’s a good way to go. I’ve been sending out my resume and emails to prospective employers with my name listed as First MyLast HisLast, so that if they contact my references, the reference won’t be like, “Jane Doe? Don’t know any Jane Doe.” This led to me to having to create a new email address, since my current one used my middle initial, and I thought that would look strange. It’s just a wee bit of a pain!
Post # 7
Yeah, unfortunately you’ll have to do it through a court. When I divorced I didn’t do it then for whatever reason, and about a year later decided I wanted my maiden name back. It wasn’t as bad as you’re probably thinking though. I just went and filled out the petition for a name change, got court date, and on then went to see a judge, and it was done. But then the dealing with getting a new SS card, drivers licence, etc… that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.
Post # 8
You have to get a court order to change your name. But, I’ve done it and it is a super easy process. I just had to find the request form online, fill it out, and mail it with a check for filing fee (~$30). I got the court order in the mail a week or 2 after. Look up the name change process in your city/county before writing it off.
Post # 9
I would change it, it’s still early. 🙂
Post # 10
I am a big proponent of the name change you’re now contemplating (First Maiden-Becomes-New-Middle Hislast), for all of the reasons you mentioned. It’s also the formal, traditional manner in which women have changed their names over the years in the U.S., (though very few of the women I know have done this.)
I love having my new name this way, and, although I sometimes I miss my given middle initial, I do not really miss my given middle name. If, for any reason, you don’t decide to change your name again, you could still use your maiden name in parentheses on a resume or at work.
example: Jane (Doe) Smith
I should also note that one of my former co-workers kept her given middle name and changed her last name to her husband’s last name, but, just a few weeks after her wedding, she decided to start writing her new name the way I did mine, using her maiden name as her middle name, even though she did not change her name again legally. It just made things a lot simpler for her at work.
Best wishes on whatever you decide!