(Closed) I Cheated! Please Help! *Long*

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 64
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It sounds like there was a lot of craziness from the very start. I think this is fixable if you want it to be. Sounds like your DH loves you (he forgave you!) and wants to work on this with you. I would delete that other dudes number and move on. It was a moment of weakness and nothing more. Go to therapy, be honest about EVERYTHING-including the lack luster sex life.

Good luck.

Post # 65
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Your last line asked us to help you fix your marriage but everything up to that sounded like a description of a miserable marriage that you are so over. I am not a cheerleader for divorce but idk, it sounds like even therapy would be prolonging the enevitable. Like pp I question why you got married to him to start with. It seems like you want a divorce and want us to validate your feelings to erase any guilt you have over wanting the divorce after he forgave you instantly.


* ot how often are flowers expected?

Post # 66
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are obviously very unhappy with your marriage and based on what you described, I can see why and I can also see why you cheated. It is a very good sign that your husband is willing to got to therapy, but you have heard his promises before and he did not follow through. See if he does so this time – see if he really goes to that appt. with you and continues to be willing to work on the marriage and your sex life. Go to therapy and give it your best shot if you truly wish to try and save your marriage. If it does not work out, at least you will have tried and will feel better about moving on with your life. You will never be happy if things stay as they are. If yur husband is not sincere about trying, if you re not sincere about trying – then cut your husband loose. You BOTH deserve more than what your mrriage is currently providing.

Post # 67
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Most of what you described in your original post, you asked for. You had all these issues before getting married, yet you got married without first fixing the issues, and somehow you thought they would magically disappear?? And then 6 months after getting married, you almost screw another guy? Your marriage doesn’t sound like it needs fixing.

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