(Closed) I cheated…kinda, please help

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 62
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i say GTFO right now. if he’s pulling the guilt-trip crap right now, imagine what he’d act like 20 years from now when he’s feeling less confident/happy.

reading your post, it almost feels like you’re telling yourself that you love him and want to marry him… i was like that with my ex too, but we both did pretty hurtful things to each other. eventually i left him even though i thought that i loved him, but years down the road, i now know that i only felt sorry for myself and him. 

 

 

Post # 63
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1032 posts
Bumble bee

I narrowly escaped a man like that, and it really was the best thing I ever did, therefore I may be biased from my past, but I don’t think this is a fixable relationship… I am so sorry!

Its the rest of your life, and I know it hurts now, but you deserve someone who makes you feel incredibly special and who you would never *want* to hurt because he is so good to you. 

Please consider postponing/canceling the wedding, if just for now. I know its hard, I have done it myself, but you will be so happy you did. There is no race for marriage.

Post # 64
Member
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also narrowly escaped a man like that, and when I was at the point in our relationship where you are — trying to work things out after all the bullshit– I literally could have written your exact description of how much you “love” him. But I know now that those feelings I felt were not love, and that he didn’t love me either. Like another poster said, you don’t have that type of behavior when you are truly in love with a person. Unfortunately, he even already admitted that he is not “in love” with you.

What it comes down to for me is that really, TRULY… a relationship is not supposed to be that hard! This is coming from someone who’s been to hell and back in previous relationships and is now having the time of her LIFE with a man who’s perfect for her! No drama, no anger, just love. I wish that for you, and I truly hope you find it.

Post # 65
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135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Mrs.H, I feel for you. Both of you have hurt each other, both of you love each other; but the main thing that I have to say is:

If it’s this difficult already, it’s not right.

Full-stop.

 

Post # 66
Member
63 posts
Worker bee

you’re both children. trying to “one up” each other with propositioning sex from other parties?

seriously, neither of you are ready to get married. grow up. 

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