Member- iheartnerdyboys
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I’ve looked around and I’ve come across a few posts where people are complaining about certain people not being invited to someone’s wedding..
when i was planning my wedding, i had a lot of that. i have 19 aunts and uncles, and my husband and i grew up in the same church since we were five, a church of 250 most of which are made up of families.. Plus, i had my college friends, high school friends, bosses and coworkers that were all important to me, as well as my husbands college friends, high school friends, bosses and coworkers.
my parents had friends, his parents had friends too. his mother also had aunts and uncles and many cousins that she needed to invite.
our venue only fit 350. we split the cost between the three groups, and that left a very tight guest list.
i still encountered many people who DEMANDED that they get invited to the wedding/were angry when they realized that we decided not to invite anyone under the age of 17 for the sake of space.
i was very frank with people who demanded a plus one, i told them there was no space and that we were on a budget- like one of my friends who wanted to bring his ex-girlfriend who was already seeing someone else. people still didn’t side with me, and were frankly quite rude.
it hurt.
both families and i are not wealthy. we were trying to have a special day within our means, and people didnt understand that.
i’m not sure how it is on the boards as a whole, but i realized that when push comes to shove, i will choose respecting my parents and his parents hard work by working within my means versus meeting the wishes of people who aren’t paying a hot dime for this wedding.
for you, it may seem like “just one person” but if i am choosing someone i’ve only met once (and liked, mind you), versus my childhood babysitter who is 82 and watched me every day after school until i was ten, i will choose my babysitter.
just my humble opinion.
