(Closed) I chose my ring so I will love it… not traditional?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I found my perfect ring, it’s not expensive though so that’s great. I can agree with choosing your ring so you’ll love it, because you WILL have to wear it every day for the rest of your life. But I absolutely do not agree with your attitude towards the whole thing.

The “I could not justify receiving anything smaller” sounds really materialistic and frankly just rude. I’m all for choosing the style, but straight up saying “I’m not taking anything smaller than that” and that you’d think something else was ‘shit’, is ridiculous. 

The point should be that you’re engaged to someone you love, not whether the ring is ‘shit’ or not. Not your style is one thing, and a valid reason to have a hand in picking out something you’ll wear forever, but picking something and deciding anything less is unacceptable is just utter bull. Considering he’s spending the money on it, you don’t have anything to ‘justify’.

The ring is a symbol, at the end of the day. And really means absolutely nothing in the long run.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

 

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jmeetsj:  I wouldn’t worry about tradition… the wedding industry is becoming less and less traditional anyways.  This is your time. Do what you want!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard

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lovekiss:  Me, too! I designed my ring after we were engaged. Ha. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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jmeetsj:  OMG that ring is gorgeous! I really really really like emerald cuts! Congratulations on your up n’ coming soon-to-be engagement!  You still have to let us all know when it happens & post at least 1 picture of the ring on your hand. 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - On a yacht!

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jmeetsj:  That happened to me too! i went “looking” with him and found it. But now he has it and I have to wait for him to pop the wuestion… 🙁 I want the ring now! LOL

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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jmeetsj:  “I couldnt justify anything smaller”

Seriously? 

 

I have no issue with a woman picking out or designing her own ring if that is what a couple chooses to do. But your attitude of entitlement irritates me. I would marry my bf with a string around my finger if that was his token of love given to me. I certainly wouldnt say that it was “unjustified” to wear anuthing less than my dream ring. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My Fiance and I went shopping together and I picked out three that I loved. He went back and picked his favorite out of the three and then he proposed. I couldn’t be any happier with the way we did it.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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jmeetsj:  it is crazy having it in the house!!! Though at least I know where it is and can take a peak to take the edge off waiting for it.  he told me he was hiding it in my office. You cannot hid it there and expect me not to look lol. I promised myself I wouldn’t put it on again until he proposed though. It does sound like we are in a similar boat. I hope both of out waits end soon!

Post # 28
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Helper bee

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jmeetsj:  My Fiance and I almost got this exact ring on Etsy! It was gorgeous but I really wanted my canary center. The ring is so stunning and I don’t think there’s any shame in knowing what you’re getting and/or seeing it before he officially proposes. I am a jewelry fanatic and my Fiance doesn’t know much about jewelry so I wanted to see the ring before we announce our official engagement to my family (we bought a ring from Diamond Nexus and it was a disaster. Thank goodness I inspected it beforehand!). Enjoy your gorgeous ring and congrats!

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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jmeetsj:  I hear you. My bf and I picked out my ring (I think, still waiting! ) and I was glad to give him my input since our styles are soooo different.  From metal color to ring style, we are different! 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My Fiance proposed with a placeholder ring from a jewelery designer that I am obsessed with. He said he couldn’t decide on which ring to buy and wanted to make sure I was happy. So, we went shopping for a ring after he proposed, and I don’t think it’s any less special than being surprised with a ring.

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