Post # 1
less than one month after i became engaged my mom approached me asking what my wedding colors would be so she could purchase fabric to sew dresses for my bridesmaids, flower girls, and herself.
I had a basic idea and chose out of the fabric swatches that the website had sold to us.
Deep sage green, Pale Pink and Deep chocolate brown were the colors I chose.
it added up to about 30 yards of fabric.. over 300 dollars worth.
We recieved our order in about five days and began preparing it for use (washing it and pressing it)
After that I found the weddingbee website.. i began looking at all the poppy bright colors of other brides’ summer weddings.
it wasn’t until about a week ago, one month after recieving the fabric that I changed my mind about the colors. i realized that the aren’t "summery" at all and are too drab for my personality.
Now i want pale pink, deep chocolate brown, and tiffany blue.. that is my final decision!
The problems are:
1st I spent over 200$ on the sage green fabric for my bridesmaids dresses
2nd The return policy is expired (30 day policy)
3rd I don’t know if the fabric is dyeable 18 yds(to brown)
4th My mother spent over 2 hours pressing that fabric alone.
I hate to hurt my mom’s feelings. I just don’t know what to do..
I don’t want to HAVE a wedding that I hate the colors:(
ANYONE’S ADVICE WOULD BE SOOOOOO HELPFUL.
Post # 3
Well, I think you know what you have to do. Take the 200 dollar hit, and buy new fabric. I would also gently let your mom know what you’re doing and probably offer to suffer through the cleaning and pressing again with her (praising her the entire time because she is a wonderful mother 🙂
You only get married once, do what you have to do- but make sure these are the colors you love and will always love. Could you possibly sell the fabric on ebay or to a local shop to recover some of the lost funds?
P.S. would you mind posting some pictures of the bridesmaid dresses? I would love to see how they turn out!
Post # 4
You may be able to resell the fabric. You can try online classifieds like craigslist. As for your mom.. sticky situation. Maybe take her out for a manicure or something pampering.. she’s your mom though and I would bet that if anyone would understand it would be her.
Post # 5
Or get her a really nice steamer?! Do you think you would be able to use the sage green in another way, like maybe overlays for the cocktail hour or your aisle runner or find a way to incorporate it into your bridal shower or maybe your new home? I know I’m reaching here, but try to think outside the box. I also agree that selling the fabric may be a good way to go. And if you mention that is has all of the prep work already done, that could be a great selling point!
Post # 6
this is the dress i have chosen for my bridesmaids:
i probably will go with the first idea,
just buying new fabric and either trying to sell it or use it in another way (table runner etc)
unfortunately, ready2bmrsd: a steamer probably won’t work on this excessive amount of fabric.
Post # 7
Also, that pattern looks pretty simple. Could you try to find dresses already made? That way, no extra work for mom, and typically bridesmaids pay for their own dress. So no extra expense for you. Mom can still make her dress and the flower girl dress.
But I think if you are not that happy with the colors you should change them. I know it’s frustrating, but I too, had to eat some money planning my wedding. Good luck.
Post # 8
You don’t have to lose that money, or have dresses you hate! Sell the extra material on WeddingBee classifieds, craigslist, your local paper or another wedding website for 75-90% what you paid for it.
There will be someone out there who wants sage green material for their dresses! (if this post would’ve come out 2 months ago, I would’ve bought it!)
Get the dress material in a color you love, and remember–you’re a bride, as as such, you’re entitled to change your mind! Just be prepared to deal with the little adjustments that need to be when it happens.
Keep us posted!
Post # 9
I’m going against the grain here – but I think you should keep the colors that you have. Save your $, your mom’s ironing time and resources – use the fabrics you have and incorporate a bright poppy color in your invitations, decorations, favors, flowers, and more!
Post # 10
This may be a silly question, but have you tried calling the company where you bought the fabric to see if they’ll still honor the return? Perhaps they will if you’re placing another large order with them.
I would switch the colors and press the new fabric for your mom this time around – or see if you can find dresses from a retailer that may have similar dresses and wait for a sale.
Post # 11
Ok I doubt you can send the fabric back due to washing ironing etc… but you can try and sell on craigslist or some sewing site…(theres got to be one) or what about using the fabric for tables? Sage green would look great with ivory or any of your other colors for the table linens or as dresses for gifts for the girls (lots of work I know!)
Post # 12
I should say you already spend the money and probably you can add something blue to the dresses, and be it more the colors that you chose at last
Post # 13
my mom is not going to let me change the colors..
she wants it her way and she won’t change her mind:(
Post # 14
Pink, brown, and blue is going to be a bit dated. Pink/brown and tiffany blue/brown were all over the place in wedding, fashion, and decor the last two years. I think the sage makes it more unique.
Fabric is just one colour element. You still have flowers, decor, the venue, and the photo locations to bring in pops of summer colour.
What colour will the various dresses be? If we get an idea as to how much of each colour will be used, maybe we can suggest accent colours to brighten it all up?
Post # 15
the four bridesmaids dresses will be sage,
my junior birdesmaids will be in pink and my mom is wearing brown.
Post # 16
If I were you, I’d keep the fabrics. Why not use the pink as the sashes for the bridesmaid sage green dresses? I would seriously love that color 🙂 You can also have fun and beautiful summery bouquets w/ lighter green and pink etc. There are a lot of accents possible. I would save mom a few hours of work.