Post # 1
I will be a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding this November. My husband and I recently decided to start trying for a baby. We don’t want to tell anyone this as it is personal. My friend is trying to decide on bridesmaid dresses and does not seem too into the idea of different styles (I was pushing this so I could get an empire waist or something that could work if I am pregnant). The dress she is likely going to pick would not work too well if I’m pregnant.
Should I tell her we are trying to have a baby, or wait until I am actually pregnant to worry about my dress? If I wait to mention it, should I just order my dress in a size or two bigger?
Post # 2
Monkey786: I would tell her and swear her to secrecy. This way she may reconsider her style choice or at least have time to wrap her head around the fact that some accomodation for a pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man may be necessary.
Post # 3
I would wait because it’s private and uncertain. It isn’t 1890. People can handle pregnant bridesmaids. We don’y need to hide you in a hut for 9 months.
Post # 4
Monkey786: If she seems like she is not open to different dresses, I’d speak up now– I know you’re not pregnant yet, but you do know that you’re going to try. If you don’t speak up, and she requests that you order dresses soonish….well you’re either going to have to speak up then or buy 2 dresses?
I had a pregnant BM– she found out she was pregnant 2 days after I asked her to be in my wedding (which was in June- wedding was in November). She asked if I had a problem with that- no of course not. And I, as the bride- had already decided that I was going to let everyone pick a dress they were comfortable in. Each one had different styles and it worked wonderfully.
As much as I hope your friend can be open-minded to another dress style, it might be helpful o give her a heads up so she can “warm” up to the idea– because as you’ve said, she’s not open-minded right anything but what she’s decided on at the moment.
Post # 5
I would mention it. “Not saying for sure that I will be, but it’s possible that I *might* be pregnant by your wedding. Is there anyway we could look at dresses that might fit anywhere between a 0 to 6 month pregnant lady?”
Post # 6
Just wait until it’s certain. Speak with the seamstress before purchasing the dress and she what she says about altering it and what size you should order. Try and wait to the last possible time to order.