Post # 1
I need a bit of encouragement. I know I’m over-reacting, and I know the solution is to just “get back on the horse,” but I’m feeling so down right now, and pretty disappointed with myself. Not to mention I’m PMSing, lol.
I have a history of losing some weight and then basically thinking “oh, this is good enough for now,” and then putting it right back on, and then some. I’d gained a good 30 lbs after college, and after meeting FI (I met him at my highest weight), I’ve started being a bit more health conscious. I lost 5 lbs in the first year, and then this past Christmas, joined a gym and started using Myfitnesspal and have lost another 15-16 pounds since then.
I know this is success and I should be proud of myself, but this past weekend I went overboard and had a milkshake I shouldn’t have. I thought oh, ok, I’ll get back on it. And then last night we went out and I had vodka rigatoni which is clearly not “getting right back on it.” Not to mention I haven’t been to the gym this week. I know these are two small instances and I shouldn’t berate myself but I start feeling like, here I go down this slippery slope again where I stop caring and gain it all back.
Last summer I CRIED the first time we went to the beach and was cranky all weekend. I vowed to myself that this year I would not do the same thing, that I wanted to be happier with my body and healthier in general, and then we got engaged and the wedding is now an extra motivation.
I don’t know why I’m having such a hard time staying on track right now and I don’t know why I’m having such a hard time forgiving myself for my mistakes.
Sorry this is long–but any words of encouragement would be really, really appreciated!
Post # 3
Sweetie you should be SO proud of yourself! I know how frustrating it is when you cheat on your diet, but honestly, you just have to let it go. Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to start fresh. Life is too short to not have pasta and a milkshake now and then. Just move past it! Good luck, you’re going to do great!
Post # 4
Hey date twin! You’ve totally got this. 2 bad days, which is not so good, but you can still hit the gym after work today and get back on track! I don’t know about you, but I totally stress eat. I have literally have to say to myself “Do I want to turn into a beached whale? No? Then put the goddamned fork down”. And then I force myself to do something, anything productive. You STILL CARE. That means you’re not going down that slope. You’ve slipped a bit and you caught it, which is the important thing.
Post # 5
You have to give yourself treats every once in awhile…that’s the best way people can lose weight and actually keep it off. Deprivation is not the answer. As @Linz1231 said, life is too short! And milkshakes and vodka pastas are delicious. It’s good that you want to be conscious, but don’t beat yourself up over one minor slip up. Enjoy it, and then try again the next day. Willpower is hard. I definitely am not great about it. You have come so far, and you need to remember that!
Post # 6
@Linz1231: I know, you’re right. That pasta WAS delicious 😉 I just have to make sure I now get my willpower back and get back on track. This isn’t going to be sustainable if I can’t have a little fun every once in awhile. My FI keeps telling me to forget about having a “goal,” and just focus on being happy and healthy instead, because if there’s no specific goal, then there’s nothing to fail. I have a tendency to get obsessive about diets, which is why I no longer do Weight Watchers or anything that makes me weigh myself once a week.
@Audrey2_sings: Willpower is SO hard. Especially when there are so many social events going on!! It’s like I want to be able to live spontaneously but right now on a 1200 calorie diet that is incredibly difficult. Thank you for the encouragement!!
@MariContrary: I would feel so much better if I could go to the gym tonight! Unfortunately we are going to literally pick up a quarter of a cow’s worth of burgers hot dogs, and steaks from a local farm and then going out for pizza with family. I’ll stay within my goal today, which is fine, but I’d be feeling a heck of a lot better if I was going to Zumba tonight! But you’re right…. I wouldn’t have posted this if I didn’t still care.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I find that having one (and ONLY one) “cheat meal” a week really helps me stay motivated and on track. It’s so hard if you feel like you’re depriving yourself. But if you feel like you’re eating mostly well with a few little splurges here and there, it feels balanced and like a long-term plan. Not to mention, it’s supposed to help keep your metabolism up.
As for the exercise, today’s the day! Get back on the horse! Come report on this thread tomorrow how great you feel for getting back into it!
Post # 8
@LilySarah: You are doing great!!! Do not think otherwise. Personally I give myself a day or two a week to enjoy what I want. I love food too much, I can’t just eat healthy 100% of the time. And for me, it works. I enjoy my unhealthy days and am even more motivated when I go back to eating better and working out.
Post # 9
I think you’re doing great and should give yourself a pat on the back! Try to consider it more of a short stop than an actual derailment! Maybe that will make it a little easier to get your train moving again 😉
One of my favourite tricks is 21 days to a habit!! take 21 small stickies and stick them on a wall somewhere, starting with 1 at the bottom and 21 at the top. Every day, your stickies will remind you to stick to your goal. Pull off the bottom sticker everyday and once your stickies are gone it will be a habit and you won’t need a reminder everyday! It works like a charm 😀
Good luck and keep up the great work!!!
Post # 10
@LilySarah: You are doing so great! Don’t think of yourself as failing, ever. Life is a journey, not a destination; so understand your fitness routine is a lifestyle which you are free to control however you so desire. You don’t have to be rigid about it. In fact, being too rigid backfires on most people, which is why so many gain back all the weight they lose.
Tell yourself you are making these changes to a healthy lifestyle as a permanent thing – for the rest of your life. You will age, there is no doubt about that. And aging makes the whole thing even more difficult, believe me. But look at it in a different way – that aging brings the gift of wisdom – and not as something to stave off but something to embrace. And think of your fitness the same way. It’s not a battle you’re fighting with yourself. It is your way of loving yourself. ((HUGS))
Post # 11
I am not overweight or trying to lose weight, so I am not necessarily in the same boat as you, but I’m just going to say that personally what works best to motivate me to always work out is rewarding myself. I know that I could never go on a diet because I love food. But I am lucky because, for the most part, I also love exercising (in fact, I have a degree in exercise science). I feel like most people derail on their fitness plans because it’s all work, work, work and no play. It’s going to feel like punishment if you never let yourself endulge.
Set guidelines and goals for yourself, such as: if I work out 5 times this week I can have a “naughty” treat once a week. You can even be more specific and tailor it to your work out plan in order to increase your fitness level by doing something like this: if I push myself to run one more mile that I thought I could do, I get a small “bonus” dessert/endulgence. You get the point. 🙂
Post # 12
You said you can be overly rigid with diets, etc. and I think that it what you are doing here. I would not call having one not-the-healthiest meal and one milkshake over the course of the week really “screwing up” your diet. You are not overweight from eating those things once and you are allowed to splurge every once and a while. Why else would milkshakes exist? It is only a problem if that is something you regularly consume.
It almost sounds like you are looking for places to say that you have failed so you can just give up. You shouldn’t be obsessing over a milkshake you had days ago- that is letting food control your life! Just let it go and get back to the gym!
Also a 1200 calorie diet is probably too low at least on days that you are exercising.
Post # 13
I totally get where your coming from, and have been in the same boat this week. Was doing so good to. I lost about 25 lbs since January by excersizing and watching what I eat. During this time I have had about two or three weeks where I fall off track a bit, go to the gym less and not eating as healthy. But the key is to remember not stay in that rut. I usually give myself a few days and then force myself to get back to the gym and back to the healthy food. It’s like I just need a few days to get it out of my system haha. So don’t stress out to much, give yourself a day or two and then committ to getting back on track. You’ll feel better, and to be honest it hasn’t really affected my goals, I am where I wanted to be.