(Closed) I DID IT! BUT… IS IT TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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335 posts
Helper bee

If you’re feeling good that probably means you made the right decision. Doesn’t mean it won’t hurt a little if/when you hear that he has a new gf… that’s always tough to see your ex move on even when you know it’s for the best!

But now is a great time to discover new interests, make new friends or reconnect with old ones, and basically live your life to the fullest as a single woman!

Post # 5
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365 posts
Helper bee

i always think that the person that breaks up always ends up being the one regretting it in the end.

I think this depends on why they broke it off. There are good reasons and bad reasons, but based on your other posts I don’t think you’ll regret it!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hmm..

I think you will have your ups and downs, for sure. But if you’re okay right now- that’s awesome! Good for you!

Honestly, stay away from things that will trigger you. Delete text message threads, emails, etc. Block him on Facebook to resist temptation from creeping him. Not talking at all makes it the easiest, from my personal experience.

Good luck!

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

@loli:  Lol. I broke up with my ex a month ago. I’m already dating again. Trust me, it’s totally normal. Especially if you have been feeling seriously disconnected from them for a while. I was feeling less and less ‘in love’ with him for about 6 months towards the end of our relationship, and it just got worse and worse. Why did I stick it out? Because I thought things might get better. I was scared of being alone. But hey, it’s turned out great for me!

For me, I realised I wasn’t unhappy that it ended. I was unhappy at the WAY it ended. But I know it was definitely the best thing in the end to have happened to me. I’ve been ridiculously happy ever since. 🙂

Glad to hear that you’ve been ok, and chin up! Life is awesome 🙂 

Post # 9
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427 posts
Helper bee

I broke it off with my ex Fiance last November. I have a couple of posts about it. I felt great afterward too because I knew it was the right thing. However, it did sting a bit to see him date again so soon even though I was dating so soon as well. I figured it would take him longer since the pain of me leaving him was so intense (according to him.) But he is the type of guy to move on fast because he doesn’t like to be alone. I haven’t regretted a thing since then at all. We are friends and both in a relationship with someone that is a lot better for us. Either way, if pain does start to consume you, just remember that it will get better. It ALWAYS does!

Post # 11
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I also ended a 8 yr relationship with my ex Fiance almost 5 yrs back. It was the best decision of my life; no regrets! I am now happily in love with my SO for 4 yrs.

If it wasn’t meant to be, you need to move on; which you did! Waita be strong chicka!

Post # 12
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well I can tell you with my 2 ex-husbands and 2 ex- sig others, once I left the relationship, I never looked back.

Post # 13
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say no and yes. You may be in for smooth sailing and feeling relief. Or it may be a delayed reaction. I left my sex after five years, I at first was happen, then for a few months i panic and wonder if I made a big mistake, then I was sad, then confused, accepted an engagement before I ended it all for good. It takes time to move on and it may go in stages. I say just be strong when it get toughs and remember why you left. I would also block him for all soical media so he not constantly in your face.

Post # 14
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

When I left my ex. I cried. Really really hard.  He was an abusive asshole and I still cried.

Three days later I was litterally dancing again I felt so good to be free.

Does it still give me a bit of a pang when i see him? Yes, because I think I made myself forget  some the bad, ( trust me there were some REALLY BAD), and then I remember, and i get angry and then happy because I am not with him. I am with my Wonderful Fiance. 

It will get better as he eventually becomes ” someone that you used to know”

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think there are good break ups and there are bad ones.  I read somewhere that once the “little door to your heart” closes, it’s over.  Then the actual break up becomes just a formality.

I’ve had some that felt like a huge relief, others I was sure I wouldn’t survive.  In every case, time always works its magic.

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