- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - UK
Back story… I am 30 very soon. A few months back, DH asked me what I would like for my birthday. I said I would like a puppy. He said no. I said that in that case, I would like a party. He said fine, he would arrange it.
Fast forward to yesterday. DH asks me what I would like for my birthday. I said a puppy. He said no. I said “well, in that case at least I can have a party. That will be fun. I like parties” He said “you can’t have a party. It’s too short notice”.
Me: Wait a sec… I asked you months ago for a party and you said yes. What have you been doing all this time?
Him : Meh. I never got around to it.
Me: *Going ominously quiet* This is my 30th birthday. All I wanted (apart from a puppy) was a party. All you had to do was buy some beer and nibbles and send out invitations. You have had months. I am not impressed, or pleased.
Him: Meh. Well, too late now.
Me: FINE. I will sort out my own birthday.
Cue facebook planning. I was so ****** off, I decided to have a fancy dress pub crawl around London and make it girls only, so I wouldn’t have to spend it with him. Mean, I know. But I was REALLY CROSS.
That evening, sensing that disaster was imminant, DH told me that we were indeed doing something for my birthday which was supposed to be a surprise, but that it isn’t a puppy or a party. His worry was that I would arrange to meet people during the “slot” he had booked, on my birthday weekend, so he had to tell me now. Now he is cross with me because he thinks I have spoiled the surprise, and that I will hate what he has done because it is not a puppy or a party, and sulk. I told him that I wouldn’t be so ungrateful. He was not convinced.
I feel a bit bad. But on the other hand… how can I be expected not to arrange something if he pretends he’s blown my birthday off? I mean… it’s his birthday a few days before mine and I’ve already got in his champagne breakfast and ordered his (expensive) present… and he isn’t even having a landmark birthday like I am!
…. grrrrr…. men…. grrrrrr……