- 3 years ago
So, yeah, I went a little psycho and I’m happy about it…allow me to explain with some background:
I was in a relationship that started in 2013 and lasted about a year and a half. He was handsome and sweet, and he had a real job unlike the other guys I had dated from my hometown. We had a whirlwind romance, and dropped “L” bombs only a few days into the relationship. How mornonic! After a month, he had slept over continuously for 20 days and had a drawer in my room. We started to bicker, but I figured that would subside after a while. Well, it didn’t. He eventually ended up moving in with me, leaving his own apartment, and didn’t pay a dime.
He was a teacher, so he didn’t work during the summer. He also opted not to be paid for two months, rather the other 10 months he was working. So, no work, no money, which means no contribution to rent. Alas, here we are, in my tiny apartment which I am the only one paying for with a man that is truly suffocating and submissive. He let me walk alllll over him!
I was just annoyed and felt stuck. I mean, I cared aobut him, but I wanted him out of my house. However, he had no place to go. Eventually he started lying to me, stealing from me, and hiding things. For example, “Oh, I have to grade papers late tonight…” later I found out he was with two girls that teach with him at a trivia night. I don’t care he’s hanging out with girls! But why lie about it?
I took him on vacation with my family and was miserable the entire time. All he wanted to do was sleep! We went to my home away from home in South Carolina and I told him how badly I wanted to move there and show him all of my favorite places, etc. He liked it, but was tired the entire time. I decided maybe I need to lighten up and try to help him in his situation the best I could. So, I was encouraging, supportive, and positive for a few months. Then, when it came time for me to move, he asked if he could come with me. In my new enlightenment on life, I decided to agree. So, he moved with me to my new home where I was only charging him $250 in rent.
Winter came, and I suggested that he start looking for a part time job so he could save up some money, and also convert to full time when the summer hits. He agreed, but never got one. In Spring, I hosted my Dad’s surprise 60th birthday where I dropped major coin to supply food and drinks for the party. My boyfriend at the time did nothing to help. He just enjoyed himself and indulged.
That night, his car was repoed and all of the lies came to surface. He wasn’t paying his bills! He wasn’t paying me rent, so where was all of his money going!?!? Nevertheless, I bailed his car out of repo-jail, to the tune of $2,500. After that, he told me everything. He was having his wages garnished for not paying his student loans, he left his apartment without properly ending the lease (which he still had two more years on), he didn’t have car insurance, you name it. So, I helped him situation himself by laying out all of his income, what he owed, when, and how he could pay it. I sat with him as he called all of his bill collectors and had him switch his bills to be due the same day as his paycheck hit his account AND set up auto bill pay in his bank. Basically, I helped him financially in any way I could.
On top of all of this, I was working two jobs since I wasn’t ever sure if he could pay rent on time, and I couldn’t afford to have our place slip out from under us! I would work from 6:30 in the morning and get home around 8 o’clock at night. All the while he was taking a nap for a few hours and refused to contribute to helping keep the house clean.
Summer came again, and he was working part-time for minimum wage at a golf course. It wasn’t enough! I was so tired of doing everything and paying for everything and not having any help around the house. I was emotionally done trying. At the end of June, he went back to his home state (PA) to take part in his brother’s bachelor party, where he was fined X amount of dollars for fishing without a license. When he came home, I asked him if he had rent since it was due the next day. He said he only had $75 to his name and wouldn’t get paid for another 11 days.
I was done! I packed his things in a trash bag and told him to use the $75 for gas. He was forced to quit his teaching job since he didn’t have any where to stay other than going home to PA. I called him mom and told her he was going back to live with her. Her response, “I can’t give him any money! He already put me 20K in debt!”
Ah, so it’s not a new thing, it’s a trend.
Anyways, a few months later I met my now Fiance and things were going great. I was still getting my ex’s bank statements in the mail, and SHOCKING – he was over drafting allllll the time. Then, I got a change of address request….he had moved with his brother and sister in law to SC, specifically my home away from home where I wanted to be. Fine! Whatever. I HATED HIM!
Then, he starts texting me from SC saying that he misses me, he doesn’t know if he’s going to stay there, he had to take a pay cut with the teaching job he got, blah blah blah. I didn’t respond. He also had told me about his new girlfriend. I responded to that stating, “Be honest with her. Don’t hide or lie.” and that was it.
Well, FOUR months later, he proposes. Uh, how did you afford that ring? How are you able to do all that you are and don’t even have the decency to pay ME back for all that I’ve done for you?!?!?!?!? I was steaming. Literally, so livid. How is this ass hole going to take most of my savings, and get a happy ending?!!??!?!
Well, I noticed earlier this year that his court records were public, and his old apartment was sueing him to the tune of 5K. In addition, he hadn’t paid his federal or state taxes, so that was another 5K. The fine he got for fishing? It was up to nearly 1K since he hadn’t adressed it, along with all of his toll violations. These cases were “active”, but no action was being taken due to they hadn’t had a way to reach my ex.
Sooooooo (here’s the crazy part)….I sent the court his new address in SC. I filled out the form, and sent it to the court house.
WHY SHOULDNT I?! He is the biggest piece of shit person I’ve ever met who is now married to a girl and tied her name to his god damn debt!
Come to find out after I checked his records after a few months, he was SERVED court papers less than a week before his June wedding! Boom. It feels good.
It feels SOOOOO damn good to know that he can’t run away from his secrets anymore! They’ve found him!!!!!!
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