Post # 1
I feel so bad today ladies. My bf has the ring and I’ve been trying really hard not to mention anything wedding related etc. We originally kind of had a “timeline” of the end of summer for getting engaged, but since I know he already got the ring I guess I got a bit too excited and got my hopes up for it to be earlier. I didn’t really expect a holiday engagement but you know how hard it is not to hope.
Well last night we were talking about something and he just kind of threw it out there that he wanted to finish building his cabin (which he’s doing in July) before we get engaged. I knew that I might be disappointed but I just full on started crying! And I mean bawling! It was like I couldn’t control myself and it was really ridiculous. The poor boy had no idea why I was so sad. After awhile he said, “You expected me to do it at Christmas or something didn’t you” and I felt like a complete idiot. So ya, a bit disappointed today 🙁 Guess I’ll still be waiting awhile!
Post # 3
i dont understand why he needs to wait to give you the ring if he already has it. As long as you are willing to have a longer engagement, why not get engaged now. I guess I am biased though because apparently my Fiance proposed the day after he got the ring. I hope he changes his mind!
Post # 4
@MademoiselleL: aww hugs. Hang on in there 😉
Post # 5
@Mrs.SplatterPaint: My thoughts exactly!! 🙂 He was thinking that if we get engaged, we should focus on saving/planning for a wedding and he would feel guilty for spending a lot of time/money on building this cabin. I understand his point but I was like, well you’re going to do it anyways, and I’m going to go there too, might as well do it with a ring on my finger! We’ll see, we had a good conversation about it anyways, but I’m just bummed it won’t be over the Christmas holidays 🙁
Post # 6
I’m sorry you are stressing out! It might not really be that long but guys have a thing about wanting their Girlfriend to be suprised when they get engaged. Just try not talking about it for a while and he will think that you forgot.
Post # 7
It honestly sounds like he isn’t taking your feelings into consideration. Why is he waiting if he has the ring? Why has he told you he has the ring if he isn’t proposing any time soon? Have you actually talked to him about that? because I think you really need to.
Post # 8
@crayfish: Yes, we have talked about it. This is why I know he has the ring: We originally discussed getting engaged by the summertime and went ring shopping. I found the ring I loved and it was on sale for a limited time, so he bought it. So I think the buying of the ring got pushed up, which I thought meant maybe the engagement would get pushed up, but he wasn’t thinking that. It was a miscommunication for sure. I think last night he realized how hard it is for me to wait especially knowing it’s there, so hopefully he takes it into consideration now.
Post # 9
I don’t want to get your hopes up BUT I did the I want to be engaged cry less than a week before he proposed. I too was hoping he was going to propose over the holidays and started talking about it and he told me he didn’t have enough for a ring yet. In reality he already had the ring and already knew the exact day he was going to propose he was just trying to throw me off so I would be surprised! It worked. He lowered my expecations so much (and in doing so made me cry) so when he proposed I wasn’t expecting it and it was worth it. If I wouldn’t have had any expectations he wouldn’t have had to throw me off and lie to me about it- it would have just happened but I kept meddling so he had to keep making up these lies to throw me off!
Post # 10
@lessthan3: Thanks for sharing it definitely made me feel better! I guess you never know, he could have been throwing me off, but I don’t think so. Either way, I’ll not mention it again until it happens 🙂
Post # 11
definitely hope he considers that waiting til the summer is too long! at least he has the ring- sending some quick proposal dust for you.
Post # 12
Well if he knows he wants to marry you and you want to marry him and the ring is there then I fail to see why you should wait. But that’s my opinion!
Maybe he was just planning it in his own time and had a specific way he wanted to do it. Something involving sunshine. Or something involving a newly built cabin 🙂
Post # 13
@tobin: I agree… I don’t understand why guys wait after having bought the ring. Makes no sense at all… if I were a guy, it would be burning a hole in my pocket! LoL. I’m not the most patient when it comes to gift-giving though. I wanted Mr. Foxxy to open his Xmas gift right after I finished wrapping it!
Post # 14
I’m with you all on this one, why he is waiting to propose? He has the ring, he told you he has it, and should just do it already. I hate the fact that he is teasing you (in my opinion) about it when he knows you want it, that is really mean of him. I hope he’s just trying to throw you off and proposes to you soon. Sending good vibes your way:)
Post # 15
I agree with MissAsB and ame, I think men (just like women) have an idea of how they want their proposal to go. He knows how important a proposal and marriage is to you and he’s only got one shot so he wants to do it right. He’s probably trying to throw you off making you think that you’ll have to wait until July but he most likely already has something all planned out for much sooner than you think! Good luck. 🙂
Post # 16
Awwww! I would of probably did the ugly cry too! (and mine is SUPER ugly!) Guys don’t realize how us girlys get our hopes up. They think theres not much of a difference between 1 month or 6 months. I’m sure now that he knows how excited you were that he still might do it a little earlier. Don’t worry about being so upset! Theres a ring thats suppose to be on your finger but is just waiting in a box! I would be anxious too!