(Closed) I did this ‘thing’ with…….. my cousin! :(

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You will teach your kids what you learned from your mistake. My “thing” is that I slept with a married man. I was single, young and stupid. I regret it with all my heart but I can’t take it back and it taught me a lesson to be a better person from then on and I was ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmm…So, you’re NOT horrible. And you’re right, no one needs to know and it doesn’t have any bearing on your life or your relationship with your husband.

I’m pretty sure we’ve all done something that we’ve been embarassed or guilty about later. Two things I’ve done in the past just popped in my head!

Remember that you’ve done a million good things and that you are a good person with a good heart.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

So why do you feel so horrible? Because its a first cousin?

In some religions and cultures marrying a first cousin is normal and even expected. 

In the US it is odd, but that is a cultural designation. There is actually nothing legally wrong with it in many states (it is illegal in some). That that means is its nothing you need to feel horrible about. People make mistakes and people “explore” their sexuality in different ways.  Not to mention you didnt have a close relationshp. In reality he was/is a stranger to you that happens to be related.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’re NOT horrible!  And if you want to keep it a secret, continue to.  But if it seems to be eating away at you go talk to a therapist to get some insight so you can leave it in the past ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Actually in most states in the US its legal to marry your cousin. My cousin used to actually have a crush on me. I hope you find some closure to your feelings soon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@gogogiraffes: haha my cousin did too!

And you are not a horrible person at all. You need to move on and forget about it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think we bees need to create a Absolution Thread- confess your deep secret there- and then LET IT GO–

regarding cousins- when my 85 year granny married her first cousin they actually had to sign an affidavit that they did not plan to have children together.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@retreadbride: “I think we bees need to create a Absolution Thread- confess your deep secret there- and then LET IT GO–“

Agreed! I think we definitely need a confessional booth here.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@anonybee13: Who cares? Why not just pretend it was some stranger at a wedding, which it pretty much was and move on. Why guilt yourself like this? In the grand scheme of things it really doesnt matter. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

even though I do think the first cousin thing is creepy, I dont equate it to killing a puppy … you are being way to hard on yourself – let.it.go

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think you should just forget about it, get over it! As a PP mentioned, in some countries cousins marrying each other is normal. My grandparents were first cousins. If its so horrible to you, just don’t do it ever again and LET IT GO.

 

-_-

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I PM’d you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We all have skeletons in our closets. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes and embarassing moments and move on. Don’t beat yourself up over it.

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