Post # 1
Last night, I was talking to DBF about our future. We always do this, and usually, he’ll ask me what part I want to discuss.
For about a week, engagement’s really been on my mind. DBF almost proposed to me out of the blue last Saturday, so I decided to bring up getting engaged, and how it feels like we’re emotionally ready for that step.
Unsurprisingly, DBF agreed. Then, I asked him what was stopping him aside from our young ages (I’m 19, DBF is 18). His answer? We couldn’t keep it a secret from our families, and DBF knew that I didn’t want to be engaged for at least three or four years.
DBF and I came to the conclusion that over the next few months, we will take getting engaged more seriously. Right now, we’re keeping our plans a secret, which is a big part of why I’m letting the Bee know. In the meantime, we will start researching and budgeting for a ring.
I know a lot of people, both IRL and on the Bee, would deem us too young. But they aren’t part of our relationship; they don’t get any say in our choices. It feels right to us, and I am confident that our families will support our decision as soon as they know we’re having a very long engagement. 🙂
Post # 3
@Luvdisc: Congratulations. I know how exciting it is to take that first step, I was there about 2 years ago. People told us we were still young too… But look, I’m now 23 and he is 22. Still going strong and have our date set! As long as you are both confident in your decision, you will go far.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
Congrats!!!! And I know where the young ages come in too. I was engaged at 18 and married at 19 (civil ceremony). And had the big wedding at 20. I am so happy for you both and I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 7
@Luvdisc: I don’t think it’s a matter of being too young neccessarily but if you’re hiding an engagement from your families it sounds like you’re not ready.
Post # 8
@ValerieBee03: I understand your concerns, and if we were keeping it a total secret after the proposal, I’d actually agree with you. But once it happens, we won’t be hiding it from our families. At this point, we are a step closer to engagement.
Usually, I am a stickler to responding to individual comments, but it’s a Friday and I am tired. Thank you for all of the support and congratulations so far. 🙂
Post # 9
@Luvdisc: Ahhh I see so you WON’T be hiding the fact that you’re engaged when it happens? That’s good. Good luck!
My SO and I started dating at 16 and 18 so I totally get it. I would have married him back then too 🙂 we’re now 24 and 26
Post # 10
@Luvdisc: My parents got married when my mom was 17 and my dad was 21 *mom got emancipated in the 70s and I guess it wasn’t a big deal to do this. lol
The will be married 34 years in November!
It works different for everyone bee 🙂 Congrats and good luck!
Post # 11
@Luvdisc: I’m from Ohio too, a very small town. I have quite a few friends that married their high school sweethearts, and still have very strong marriages. So I’m definitely not going to rag on you because it’s honestly a little bit more in the norm for us.
On that note… yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m jumping up and down for you; I’m so excited for you!
Post # 12
@Luvdisc: Congrats!! The fact that your both sitting down and having a mature conversation about it is great. Your not the only one hiding the fact that engagement plans are on the way and I’m 24. I just feel that the “waiting” time is for the couple to enjoy. The fact that his parents are nagging him to do it already makes me sure of that. Your a smart girl and it’s good to see young people still out there thinking things clearly and not rushing things just for the sake of it. Highschool sweethearts can make it…met my SO at 16 and almost 8 years later were as happy as can be..so with the rate yout two are going I can see the makings of a sucessful relationship. Good luck and know you must be soo excited.
Post # 13
Sidenote: I saw your user name on the board and was wondering if it was a pokemon reference, then I clicked this thread and saw your profile picture. XD
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Congrats!! 🙂 I was engaged at 18, married at 19 and now 20 and a few months married 😛
P.s. I also like your icon/ username hehe
Post # 15
Update time! I know it’s a little later than I had hoped, but I just thought I should clarify some things.
Shortly after we discussed this, DBF and I realized that there were a few problems with us getting engaged in the near future. First of all, when I was touching on ring shopping with DBF, I learned that I was unknowingly pressuring him a little bit into proposing very soon. In the past, DBF has said that he’d do anything to make me happy; since he’s so much of a “yes-man” when it comes to our relationship, that apparently goes for considering getting engaged before he is ready. He also insists on proposing with a ring, and due to the seasonal nature of his job, he wouldn’t be able to wisely spend a few hundred dollars on one until next summer.
Also, there are some aspects of our relationship that would make an engagement now seem rushed. As I have mentioned in other posts, DBF is finshing up high school, and when it comes down to it, I wouldn’t feel fully comfortable accepting a proposal from him until he graduates this upcoming May. That, and in the 18 months (as of today!) that we’ve been together, we haven’t gone as far intimacy-wise as I’d like before getting engaged.
Overall, we know we’ll get engaged relatively soon (for us, that could mean within the next two years, and at that point, we’ll still be in university). We know that our relationship has no expiration date, so why rush?
I’m glad that some users on here like my username. These are actually the first few times I’ve gotten compliments on it here. 😉
Post # 16
@Luvdisc: I think you guys are being really sensible, and obviously have great communication in your relationship, which is fantastic! It’s always important that you do what is best for you guys (ignore the nay sayers). My Mum was 17 and my Dad was 21 and they are still happily married 34 years later too!
Whatever works out for you, I am sure it will work out for the best. Congratulations on what sounds like a really strong relationship