(Closed) I Didn't Like My Proposal. Anyone Else Feel The Same?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 92
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@Sassygrn:  Seriously? A girl can still want at least a somewhat nice moment to remember it by. A proposal on a couch is fine if that’s the couple’s style, but that’s obviously not her style. Also, she said she doesn’t like her ring. It’s something she’s going to be wearing forever, she should at least like it. 

Post # 93
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@abirdword:  That’s a little harsh. She’s close to her dad and it’s a sentimental thing. She wanted it to happen, who are you to judge and say that it doesn’t need to happen? If it was important to her, it should have happened. 

Post # 94
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@mrspinesol: my intention was not to be harsh, I apologize if I was.  I should clarify that if her Fiance knew how important it was to her, he should have done it.  My point was merely that an engagement is an agreement between two people to marry.  The rest (asking the father, the ring, fireworks, etc.) is just details, which is why I said it’s unnecessary – a person is not more or less engaged without them.  That doesn’t mean those things aren’t meaningful – meaningful and necessary aren’t the same thing.

 

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@abirdword:  apology accepted. πŸ™‚ on one hand I agree with you, but on the other hand I can see why she’s upset. hopefully you only get engaged once, so you want it to be special and exciting.

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@elaina250:  I can understand being underwhelmed by the proposal, but ultimately it is a very small part of your long relationship.  Asking your father’s permission is a very traditional, albeit dated, concept.  Was your Fiance aware that this was important to you?  I can agree with some other commenters that since you two had already bought a house together, asking for your father’s permission to marry you may have seemed silly to your Fiance.  I hope that you can let this go and find happiness in planning the wedding, and eventually in your marriage.  

Post # 97
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

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@AmeliaBedelia:  I agree with you!  She can make up for a so so proposal by making great wedding day memories!  Do something extra special and romantic during your ceremony. πŸ™‚

Post # 98
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Newbee

@elaina250:  tell him that you are calling off the wedding, return the ring and ask him to propose all over again πŸ™‚ come on its never too late! people have wedding rehearsals why coudlnt you have had an engagement rehearsal! πŸ™‚ and dont worry so much about the proposal. what matters is that the two of you will be sharing a lifetime together, you will have many other beautiful things to happen to the two of you. πŸ™‚

Post # 98
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Interesting thread. I came across it randomly through google. I am a male and my fiance is unhappy with her proposal as well. We have a long distance relationship. I am german and live in germany, she is from california. So when she came a month ago i took her to paris and proposed to her in the versaille gardens (where Kim Kardashian and Kanye got married). Eifel tower i thought was lame because everybody does that πŸ™‚

Everything was improvised from my side . I had the ring always with me in my pocket whenever we would meet (every 5 to six weeks) but i never found the right moment. Also i wanted to propose in Europe. So now she complains that A) i didn’t kneel (Why would i? Plus it was gravel in the gardens and i was wearing shorts πŸ™‚ and B) She doesn’t like the ring. It’s a diamond ring kinda like the ones you see in fairy tails with a solitaire diamond on top. In europe that would be considered extraordinarily exagerated, people ususally have simple gold bands with a tiny quartz stone, no real diamond so personally i don’t understand why she is not happy. But hey, at least she is honest πŸ™‚

By The Way, two of my exes have proposed to me in the past but i said no. They also had no ring for me or anything πŸ™‚

 

Post # 99
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We went ring shopping on a Saturday and he said he would do it when it was time, like 5 hours later I was cooking some late night chicken and he got down on one knee and did it in the kitchen whilst I was wearing my ugly purple cat nighty. But the fact is he asked me, he loves me and I love him and none of the other stuff matters. I tell my story all the time, I don’t care how he did it. The point is he did and I can’t wait to spend everyday with him πŸ™‚

Post # 100
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Helper bee

I think we all expect something romantic and fairy tale like for the proposal. The media has a lot to do with it. Still it would have been nicer if he had proposed at a nice restaurant or secluded beach. I feel for those girls who get asked the question in a sports  stadium of millions of people or a gazillion folks at a mall. Those are all over  Youtube.

Post # 101
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

I was so unimpressed I told him to do it again the following weekend more romantically. Ended up being semi-engaged all week and then just kinda got on with it when we saw each other. Only one friend knows! 

My guy is really practical and straightforward. He bought me such a beautiful unique ring but yet had me book dinner that weekend, we got back to my house, he lit some candles in front of me and then got down on one knee in my shared house! Worst proposal ever but best ring in the world bought my the man I love! I guess the proposal was a bit of a personal challenge to accept him for who he is! 

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Leu gardens, orlando

Mine sent me a text saying “how do you fancy getting married” then I picked out a 40 dollar ring!!

The important thing is that I’m marrying the man I love

Post # 103
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If this makes you feel better, when my soon-to-be SIL was planning to propose to my daughter, her friends were giving him all these elaborate suggestions.  He thanked them but said all those plans sounded fake and insincere to him.  (No offense to anyone who had an elaborate proposal.  That just isn’t his style.) They also offered to hide and video for them, but he refused that also.  He said  he thinks a proposal should be private and intimate.  He did put thought into it, but it was quietly between the two of them around a bonfire on his grandpa’s farm.  It was meaningful to him how he did it, but it wasn’t something you would see on youtube. So, maybe your fiance put a great deal of thought into it and it was meaningful to him even if it wasn’t something like you imagined out of a romantic movie.  πŸ™‚

Post # 104
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Helper bee

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caligermany :  Sounds like the proposal was wonderful. Your English is excellent, better than mine! πŸ™‚

Post # 105
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Helper bee

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elaina250 :  You need to make it very clear about what your expectations are in the romance department. Most men are clueless. If you don’t, you’ll be receiving an installed garbage disposal as a birthday present. Or even a hand painted picture of some frogs dressed up as cowboys at a bar. That’s what I got. Needless to say we no longer celebrate anniversaries, birthdays Valentine’s  or Mother’s Day.

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