Post # 106
elaina250 : My proposal was nothing special either. To be honest, yes, it was disappointing. But basically that was the beginning of my big girl realization that life is not a fairy tale and I am not a pretty princess. But I AM married to a prince and that’s what’s most important 🙂
Post # 107
I hate the way mine proposed too. Almost exactly like yours did. We were together for 9 years when he asked me. And he put like zero effort into what he was going to say and how he did it. I honestly don’t know what he was thinking because he is usually so romantic! I have done everything with this man and he had me wait all that time for that? He promised for years about how happy he is going to make me. What was all that build up for? I do not mean to sound ungrateful but let’s not underplay the significance of a proposal here. It sets the tone for the engagement, the wedding, and the marriage to follow!!
Post # 108
I hate the way mine proposed too. Almost exactly like yours did. We were together for 9 years when he asked me. And he put like zero effort into what he was going to say and how he did it. I honestly don’t know what he was thinking because he is usually so romantic! I have done everything with this man and he had me wait all that time for that? He promised for years about how happy he is going to make me. What was all that build up for?
Post # 109
I think you’re losing sight of what is actually important. You have a partner who loves you. You want to get married and spend your lives together. That’s a lot more than a lot of people have.
Post # 110
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
“let’s not underplay the significance of a proposal here. It sets the tone for the engagement, the wedding, and the marriage to follow!!”
No, it does not.
Post # 111
This is so interesting because I also feel very upset about my proposal. A year later and I cannot seem to get past the fact that my now-fiance did not plan it. He basically said let’s go to dinner and then made us walk home where he at some point grabbed my hand and started telling me how much he loves me and eventually took out the ring, forgot to go down on his knee, mixed up the hand/finger etc. and I literally flipped out. I started crying about how pissed he made me by not planning it better, by not even knowing what he’s going to say or which way we would walk home. Basically, a year later and when people close to us get engaged I get so upset and sad because I can’t stop thinking about how bad my proposal was. That whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth and even a year later, I think back at my first day being engaged and I just was so upset… And this makes me sad, because we have a great relationship and we love each other, and he is truly the best man I’ve met, but….he sucks at planning and I’m such a planner. Sorry for the length of the post, this is my first one ever!
Post # 112
He took you out to dinner, you were walking home (at night I presume), told you how much he loves you, and asked you to be his wife. Is getting down on one knee that necessary? My fiance asked me, then got on one knee because he forgot, but standing up was completley fine. Maybe he mixed up the hand because he was nervous about asking and what your response would be? I would not sweat this. I’m sure there are women who wish someone would propose to them.
Post # 113
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but after being married for almost 30 years, experiencing illness, death, birth, unemployment & addiction…I remember the romantic proposal. But it did NOT set the tone for our marriage. (Which is excellent)
I’m not saying it’s not important. But it doesn’t set a tone for the marriage.
Post # 114
I was sick and in bed. 🙁 It wasn’t what he’d planned, but what made it wonderful is that it really highlighted that he was in this no matter what ….. even being sick, he made it special. Even though I looked and felt like crap, it didn’t matter. Not everything goes as planned, but I’m going to marry the love of my life.
Post # 115
Mine was crappy. He did it during the time of one of my cousin’s wedding! (Wtf!) Not AT the wedding but a few days prior. So I couldn’t even tell anyone as I didn’t want to steal her limelight. He had PLENTY of time to do it AFTER. Or several months to do it before! He picked the sh*ttiest timing but I guess that goes with the theme of him just being a sh*tty guy in the end who was nothing but a great actor.
My current SO hasn’t proposed. We are not in any kind of rush.