Post # 1
Im not sure how to start this off. I need to let this information out of me. I need to expell this information I have not one person to talk too I tried a therapist but was not enough ☹️
I married a 💑 man i known for 13 years. 11 of those years we lived together with my 2 children. They were 8 and 12 at the time. We married November of 2016
By July of 2017. He was a very very different man.
How or what happened I still do not know. After all this time. I don’t want to know what happened.
I have decided to leave him. We are still living together. As roommates without benefits. In April of 2018 I told him I want a divorce Due our financial or lack of finances if we could remain as roommates until beginning of 2019 He said yes No questions no surprise nothing nothing came out of him
He started by not coming home. When he did he was drunk.
This lasted for 3 months. During this time I was frantic,upset,devastated, a complete mess. Everyday I would call him text him. But nothing. No response. When we did see each other arguments. Finally on his own he started to become the man I have known.i did not care. Our marriage was over. I had decided to leave. I will never want those months again. No newlywed should. During this time (this idiot) had not changed his cell pin code. He was in love with another women since July of 2017. In love. Not lust. In love! I had the proof on phone records and on texts. The written texts. I found her name address what car she drives. Her families names. And yes they work for the same company but different location. Which is how they met. To this day they still communicate. Yes, still has not changed his phone pin. Then in July 2018. He had relations with a paid whore. I could not. Could not believe what I was reading! I drove by her house. I saw several customers going in and out. Wow what a bomb that was to me. I stopped there. I did not want to know anything else. I was not going to remain with him much longer. I want out now. He is still trying to win me back. Why? Why? He has her. His love of his life! I am so disgusted. Aw! I don’t let him touch me. To me he is contaminated. I was seeing a therapist but it did not really help me. I am on depression and anxiety medicine. I have no one to talk too.
Post # 2
How did you find the whores house?
Post # 3
You need to get yourself and your children out of the home you’re sharing with him. Your relationship is clearly over , was over, and you still searched through his emails and stalk his new partners- which you have NO right to, as you’re not in a relationship anymore. He can be with as many “whores” as he wants- its none of your business.
You need intensive therapy, if your therapist isn’t helping you then seek another. Go to a women’s family shelter if need be and start the divorce proceedings.
Post # 4
Stalking his partners at this point is not healthy. The relationship is definitely over. You need to move forward with the divorce and stop living together ASAP. Tell him to change the pin on his phone. You don’t need to find out anything about the people he is with, or their homes or family members. (?!) You already know what you need to know about him to know he is not a good husband for you. Leave and don’t look back.
Post # 5
Mmm, Idk… they’re legally married, so i honestly think she has SOME right.
It’ll play in her favor during the divorce proceedings, yea?
Post # 6
Anyways, GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE girl. Like, immediately. You’re really hurting yourself & your brain & stuff by staying in there. That kind of sick twisted s*** is enough to make a person physically sick. You cannot stay there. I’d rather live in a haunted house than in a regular house with a cheating spouse even if the relationship is over NOW, at one point he was your TRUE spouse, & he cheated).
Post # 7
He needs to get his lying ass out of the house. And you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and make a plan that doesn’t include living with someone who’s hurt you.
For the future, people don’t change dramatically overnight. It’s tempting to believe that he suddenly snapped and became this other person, but it’s just not the case. You just missed or ignored all the signs that were there.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
There are alot of factor’s that come with leaving. Did you buy a house together? If so can you get him to help with the mortgage or are you able to do it on your own? If you can afford it. Kick his ass out tell him to go live with his whore, and change all your locks. That is the first thing that you need to do. I know in my state if you a spouse leaves the other spouse can get you for abandonment. But that is not likely to happen in your case. Who cares where he goes, he has broken all the trust that was there. Next go file for a seperation. Thank god you have no children with him. I am so sorry you have to go through this. There is nothing worse than to have to share a home with someone that you dispise. He crossed the ultimate line. You have to keep your strength up for your self and your beautiful children.
Post # 9
Hi. Thanks for this. This is what I have looking for. Has been so hard to find a real place to share this difficult sickening information.
No. No mortgage. I need to remain with this roommate. I cannot afford this rent on my own. I am empty out this place. Slowly. I Have already changed my emails. My passwords I took him off car policy. Health policy. I remain here for these reasons and more. Slowing getting everything together. I will leave in 5months. I am leaving him. My children have known. There getting there stuff together with peace. He is so full of crap. He really believes I have forgiven him. He continues to believe will be around for grandchildren. The real reason I remain here is his work hours. He works evenings. I don’t see much and he works 6days a week. We really don’t see or talk much. Hope to here from you soon :
sunburn : keviah12 :
Post # 10
yes. I am hurting. Each day I get stronger. I am waiting on a place to be available thru a friend. He will let me pay at reduced rate. And it will far away from this neighborhood and him. Meantime I’m paying off my car as fast and as faster as I can. I’m aiming for it to be pif by March. This would help so much. I’m tired. So very tired. It’s great that I don’t see him. Much
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
O.k. good. Sounds like you have a plan. And you are doing all the right things. You are a very smart women. And his hours are perfect for you to keep doing what you are doing. Save as much money as you can ( i am sure I don’t have to tell you that lol). The less things you have to do at the end the better you will be. I am very proud of you Bee for having the strenght for doing this, some women would stay but as hard as it is your gathering up the strenght to leave. Well done.