- 4 years ago
Bees, I’ve gone annon for this, as I don’t want my boyfriend finding this, I’ll call him Steve.
In the beginning our sex life was phenomenal, couldn’t get enough of each other! Ahhhh those were the days!!
Steve is 39. He doesn’t work out “my job is a workout”. He got injured on the job and the work physiotherapist told him someone your age really needs to start working out. Play basketball, go for hikes, whatever you find fun. Nothing changed.
He lives on energy drinks, coffee and water flavored by Gatorade, Mio or whatever he can grab. He has healthy dinners, but breakfast is liquid, lunch is fast food, and he rarely eats fruit or veggies. Steve has quit smoking cigarettes for vaping *gotta start somehwhere* and has started drinking alcohol more frequently.
His gut health is horrendous! He has constant heartburn, possible IBS, and who knows what else. He doesn’t have a family dr and no showed an appointment I made for him. He has put weight on only in the abdomen and of course this is a cause for concern. However apparently only for me. He doesn’t know the last time he went to a Dr.
I LOVE this man! I want to have children with this man!! He said he wants to have a kid or have me pregnant by his 40th. I have told him I agree, so let’s get healthy so we can make this happen! He agrees with everything I say, yet nothing changes. I also said to him, you know, we’d actually have to have sex to make a baby right?
We have not had sex in over 4 months. He doesn’t kiss me beyond a peck. He doesn’t snuggle me…his version of cuddles is me laying on/near him with an arm limply draped over me. I have spoken to him about this. He promised he’d start kissing me the way I deserve to be kissed again. No change. When it comes to sex he says he’ll try. No change.
I’m lost. I miss intimacy with him. Actions speak louder than words. He speaks beautiful words but his actions are cold and lacking.
Bees, what do I do?