- 2 months ago
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were both 22. We are now 28.
We started living together after 2 years of being together.
When we were 25, we started talking about marriage. We were both on the same page. A year later, we picked a ring together, which he bought last year for me.
We were planning to get engaged last winter (he told me that he was going to propose in winter when we talked about when).
It didn’t work out as planned, not because of him but me. I went through a challenging time last summer. I was suffering from emotional problems and some anger issues. I began doubting everything including our relationship. We fought too frequently and during one argument, I said that I didn’t know if we were right for each other, and an engagement in the following months may not be right for us. This was in October.
We didn’t get engaged as he didn’t propose after that and we only just managed to keep our relationship going. I am doing better now and have been doing ok this year.
I would like to get married to him and would like to be engaged. But when I told him how I feel, he seemed less than certain because of what happened last year. He said that he loved me but he was very hurt. He doesn’t know if and when he will want to propose again. He still has the ring.
I can see where he’s coming from but have so many regrets. I feel guilty because he was at the receiving end of my emotional issues last year, and I ruined what was a healthy and happy relationship.
I don’t know what advice members here can give me, but has anyone been in this situation? How did you handle it?