Post # 1
I actually want to say I hate them but I really do try to be nice. His sister has never liked me because I “took” her baby brother! Really? Grow up! Anyway I THOUGHT his mom liked me until she gave his ex his number so she could get him back! His ex said his mom told her that we were not together any more! His mom even told his ex that she didn’t think our eight month old daughter is his. But I’m so glad that he doesn’t care how they feel. He says I’m marrying him and not them. He tells me he loves me and he is marrying me because he loves me! I really love him and I literally want to cry sometimes because I did nothing wrong to these people. I just love him because he is choosing me over them!
Post # 3
Wow. Just, wow. Is he cutting them out of his life or what is the deal?
I had a similar situation with my fiance from my first engagement years ago. His family was awful and they made my life a living hell. Just remember his family is his family and you will have to deal with them for as long as you two are together. Unless he is disowning them…..
Post # 4
Wow, I’m really sorry you have to deal with all of this. It’s really great that your Fiance has “picked” you (for lack of a better word) and is standing by you. I think that, for the sake of your daughter if nothing else, you should try to engage his family in a conversation about these issues and try to figure out where they are coming from. You may have unintentionally slighted them somehow once and they’re holding it against you, or maybe they’re just being crazy. Regardless, I’d try to talk to them honestly (and respectfully) to see if you can make a better situation.
Post # 5
He would never disown them and I wouldn’t want him to. He has asked them what their problem is with me and they say they have no problem with me. But their actions tell me (and everyone) differently. As long as it doesn’t affect his and my relationship, I’m just going to let it go. I don’t know what else to do.
Post # 6
I’m sorry to hear this. It sounds like your Fiance has your back though which is good. My in laws are not the best either, and as my dad always says to me: “at least you don’t live with them”
Post # 7
You are stronger than me, I couldn’t live with this.
Post # 8
@tovaford12: I agree.
Just prepare yourself. You will be dealing with this forever.
Post # 9
@tovaford12: I agree with this 🙁
He loves you and that is all that is important!! My exs mum did a similar thing, kept tell him (and me) that we should get back together, that his new girlfriend was nothing on me. Eventually he turned around and told her what the deal was, that we are NEVER getting back together and that she had to just suck it up! Good luck.
Post # 10
Ladyartichoke, I think to some degree you marry a guys’ friends and family. Is his love the most important thing, I’d say yes. Is it all that is important, I’d say no.