I do not think my husband EVER loved me – please help!

posted 6 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
4872 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Please tell your family about how your husband physically abuses you to the point of leaving bruises. You need help in leaving this toxic marriage and can’t do it alone.

Post # 3
3 posts

As a Christian woman myself I can tell you WITHOUT A DOUBT that it is NOT God’s will for you to be in this marriage. It is not. If you are getting beaten by your husband, it is a sin against God and a betrayal of the vow of marriage. Please, please get help and leave. Go to a shelter, make sure you’re safe. Please

Post # 4
1030 posts
Bumble bee

You’re not Jesus. If someone slaps you in the face, you don’t turn the other cheek, you leave the MF’er.

Post # 5
1301 posts
Bumble bee

There are so many things wrong here. I can’t  even start. Just use your support and start a new healthy life. 

Post # 6
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

….what did I just read…? Time to go, Bee. What a horrible life this man has bequeathed to you.

Post # 7
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I am quite certain that your God and your church would have no problem with you ending this “marriage”. It is not a marriage in any meaningful sense of the word. You are a hostage to an abusive man who, you are correct, has never loved you. 

Post # 8
1030 posts
Bumble bee

greatadvice4all :  Stay with your father and sister. He returned to you and feigned a reunion so that he could get his passport back. (Why did you have it??). Nothing about your relationship is healthy, G-dly, or salvageable. 

Your husband is an abuser.

Post # 9
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’ve posted about this before. Tell your family and leave. I’m Christian teaching it’s acceptable to divorce a man who hits you

Post # 10
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It’s so bad, I actually have hard time to believe it’s true. As a Christian talk to priest you respect about it. When I was speaking about my ex marital situation, I received support from the priest. He said the sacrament of Marriage cannot be forced onto the person who doesn’t want to receive it. Your husband is obviously not interested in marriage and may have mental issues. I don’t know of any church that makes people stay with mentally unwell partners. There is usually a list of legitimate reasons for divorce. It doesn’t matter if you believe in divorce or not. You don’t have a real marriage, so in your case the dissolution is just making official the fact of the absence of marriage.

Post # 11
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

Cut all contact. Do not go back. GET. OUT. OF. THIS. MARRIAGE. IMMEDIATELY.

Ugh, Bee. This is already rock bottom, and those rocks at the bottom are crumbling quickly. You’re about to hit an even lower low. LEAVE.

Post # 12
5583 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

There is nothing christian about this marriage so why stay in it?

Stay with your own family and do not go back to this guy. 

Post # 13
246 posts
Helper bee

This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship, and not one that you will gain anything positive from at all. I really do believe that you should share your situation with your family and ask them for help to leave your husband. You are still so young and have so much of your life ahead of you. Leave now and one day you’ll be in a loving, committed relationship with someone who sees you as an equal partner.

Post # 14
908 posts
Busy bee

I’m a Christian and I’m telling you it’s fine to leave this marriage I’m fact it is IMPERATIVE that you leave this marriage for your own safety and mental state GET OUT. He is a monster. He will never be a good husband. 

Post # 15
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

lulabellegrace :  Yes! I couldn’t have said it better myself!

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