- 6 months ago
- Wedding: City, State
greatadvice4all : I don’t have any advice to you other than leave. He won’t stop this behavior until he kills you or you leave. Physical abuse only gets worse.
I’m also adding that since you describe yourself as a good Christian and are afraid of divorce because of your religion:
1. Good Christians do not focus on material wealth, as you did in your first paragraph. They do not covet physical belongings or place their personal worth in monetary gains. Your concerns that you had an inexpensive wedding, no engagement ring, and no house, show that money matters more than God. This is not being a good Christian.
2. Your husband is sinning by physically harming you and refusing to love and respect you as a child of God. When he married you, he promised to love, respect, and protect you, and he has done none of those things. He is sinning, and because you refuse to stand up to him, you are enabling his sins rather than helping him. Rather than helping him find God’s love and forgiveness, you are allowing him to commit evil acts. If you stay, he will continue to beat you. Good Christians help lost souls find God, your husband is lost and you are letting the darkness work through him. This is not being a good Christian.
3. If you bring children into a loveless, physically and emotionally abusive marriage, you are creating children out of your own selfish want to be a mother rather than to create loving beings in God’s image. Your husband will eventually turn his violence towards your children and by placing them in harm’s way, you are again allowing your husband to commit evil acts against God’s children. This is not being a good Christian.
4. Jesus died for our sins so we could be free to spread love and compassion. You are ignoring Jesus’s sacrifice and living in fear instead. Every day you live in fear and darkness, Jesus’s sacrifice was in vain. This is not being a good Christian.
5. If you were a good Christian, you would know God loves you and wants you to be happy. He wants you to have healthy, loving children who can find happiness for themselves. Neither you nor your children will be safe or happy with your husband.
There are pastors and counselors who can help you. There are religious organizations who help women who have been abused. They want to help you and God wants you to help yourself.
It is not your fault your husband is abusive. He needs to find God again. Unfortunately, you cannot help him. You cannot make him better. He is sick and angry. If you continue to stay with him, you will eventually lose your faith too, if not your life.
Wouldn’t you rather live a long, meaningful life full of love and joy, so you can spread Christianity and show others how wonderful God can be?