- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Let me start by saying my fiance feels the same way buy we feel obligated. They do not have a close relationship and neither do her and I. It has been a constant battle for both of us to find common ground with her about anything. Our wedding is destination and over Christmas she threw a huge tantrum that we didnt spend enough time with her and she will not be attending as well as informing his sids not to attend. Later that week she said it was a misunderstanding and she wants to come so she bought her tickets. We were shocked she did honestly.
I emailed her (since she never answers me calls lol) and asked if she would like to be in the processional. She emailed me back and said no. I emailed her several times with zero responses asking her ways she would like to be included. My fiance called her and asked her and she said she wants to do everything my Mom is doing because it wouldnt look right if she didnt. It seemed like she only is worried about how she would appear to others, not for the right reasons. We were both irritated because she doesnt communicate with me about the wedding but constantly complains about her lack of involvement. We offered for her to help with the reherseal dinner but she demanded it be 100% vegitarian or she would have no part of it. So we took on the task of doing it ourselves..which is fine.
This is the big part. We found out 3 weeks ago my fiance is not an only child. He has 3 other half brothers thatbhis mother knew about his entire life and never told him about. Her excuse “well you never asked if you had half brothers. If you did I would have said yes.” That is an entire different topic but there is a lot of resentment there considering his entire life she has been the ONLY relative he WAS TOLD he had. Very decietful and hurtful to him.
Needless to say…these are some very small examples of what we have been dealing with and both had to bite the bullet in the first place when inviting her. What are your thoughts on us including her in he wedding? It would be less stressful for us to have her come as a guest and thats it. Thoughts?