(Closed) I do not want to wedding plan…

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel the same way. I was so eager in the beginning stages, and now the feeling is dwindling. I just want to show up and be done with it lol.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do you know any wedding planners?

ETA: If you’re getting married in 2015 you can definitely ignore the wedding for awhile and start planning again next time you get excited about it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe hire a wedding planner and let them take control?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

THIS. 

I feel the same way. It’s too overwhelming for me because I’m so indecisive and because I want to do something gorgeous and not something everyone has seen before a million times. And then if I say something to someone about how I’m just not excited to plan the wedding, they try to say “oh well you have to be sure and if you’re having doubts about your Fiance, don’t go through with this”. UGH, so annoying. Nothing to do with marriage, I don’t have any doubts about the actual marriage, but the color palate and the flowers and OMG MY BRIDESMAIDS PICKED SATEEN DRESSES I HATE SATEEN BUT I DON’T WANT TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS AND TELL THEM THEY’LL LOOK LIKE THEY’RE WEARING VINYL TABLECLOTHS…that’s stressful.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

When I got engaged I had a couple of friends/relatives who were really eager to offer their help in planning…I think they missed planning their own wedding. Maybe you know someone like that? Otherwise, if it’s in your budget, I think this is what a wedding planner is good for. I had no interest in planning a wedding either, but once I made the first decision (venue) I could start to visualize the wedding I wanted and then I was willing to do the work to make it happen. Before you’ve made any decisions it can seem overwhelming but you just make one decision at a time and it comes together. Smile

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I felt the same way….over the summer I have been able to get my thoughts around things better….I was really concerned about money, but have found a way to have a cheap cake (cupcake tiers with a friend making the cake part that will be on top), made my own fascinator, making my own veils (yeah 2, I want a tulle one for the ceremony and a bird cage for the reception), makng my cupcake wraps (that actually cost me $0 because I had everything to do it), making my own invites, etc…..

and I’ve started doing everything and it seems to be going well…..I think my major problem was that it was SO FAR AWAY…and now it’s less than a year….

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I hate weddings at the best of times! And that definitely didn’t change when I started planning one – not only do you have to deal with everyone else’s expectations, but you’ve also got the ridiculous work and cost involved!

Like @atlbride2013 said, it’s even harder when you try to vent about it to people around you and they assume you mean you don’t want to marry your fiance. Like, there’s some kind of taboo against not wanting to have a big day.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@des1982:  I would wait to pick your bridal party  until you are about a year or less from your wedding date. Then you can figure out who you feel the need to tell every little detail and include them. And the ones who you’re sure will show up but you just don’t talk to much you can leave out. Before you pick the bridal party you should probably create a rough guest list, determine the budget, pick a venue and a date.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@des1982:  The first time we met with my florist she told me that since she worked in the wedding industry she just couldn’t do the whole big wedding thing with all the planning. They got engaged on a Friday and then married the next Saturday in the courtyard behind a restaurant. She got her dress from Anthropologie and had no wedding party. Just family and friends came and following the ceremony they had a nice dinner.

Make your wedding whatever it is that you want.

My bridal party is made up of my 2 sisters and my best friend growing up. I also don’t have a ton of close friends and I wanted my bridal party to be the people that in 10 years I’ll still be talking to.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I second what PP said about waiting to pick a wedding party until a year out. I picked at about 18 months and STILL am regretting it, I should have waited. 

 

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