(Closed) “I do” vs repeating vows…Writing the Ceremony!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What kind of vows did your ceremony have?
    The "I Do" kind. : (10 votes)
    20 %
    The repeat after me kind. : (14 votes)
    27 %
    Personal Vows only. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Personal vows with "I do" vows after. : (15 votes)
    29 %
    Personal vows with the "repeat after me" kind after : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Other. : (9 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t care for personal vows or repeat vows. “I do,” kissy kissy, and then time for food and dancing!

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We repeated the traditional vows only.  I just felt like I needed to Say the words to feel them not just agree. My husband and I aren’t super emotional people though so I was actually hoping it might amp it up a little since I definitely wasn’t worried about bawling.  

    Post # 5
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    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We wrote our own that we repeated after the pastor. I wish we had done i dos as well.

    Post # 6
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    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We had an “I do” portion and a “repeat” portion….. not the traditional but still same format =)

    Post # 7
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I much prefer saying the actual words. Otherwise, it seems like you are making a promise to the officiant, rather than each other.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I just started thinking about this recently, too, trying to figure out which kind we’ll do.  I think I prefer the repeat vows, because I like the idea of actually saying the words.  (Could you put any less effort into something than listening to one guy list off all the promises and basically just responding, “Yup”?)  πŸ˜›

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We did all three! And the whole ceremony lasted probably 20 minutes.

    1) Personal vows

    2) I Dos

    3) Repeat after me (for ring exchange)

    Post # 10
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    4659 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @pengoala: this is exactly what i want to do too!

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I haven’t decided what we’re going to do yet but considering the ceremony will be in danish (which is my 2nd language), I think I’ll want to take the easy route and just say “ja” πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    we were watching TLC’s Four Weddings several months ago, when FH asked in a leading kind of way if I really wanted personal vows more than “I do”.

    I said it wasn’t important either way.

    He sighed in releif, and asked if we could just do the “I do”, because, and I quote, “no one likes to hear a grown man’s voice crack as he cries”.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada β™₯ EDD- April 2016

    We’re doing the “I Do” and then repeated vows  (:

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I chose “other” because we actually didn’t saw vows at all! We had a Greek Orthodox ceremony, and in those the bride and groom don’t say anything. It worked well for us because we’re both shy and nervous. It didn’t feel any less real though.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I agree with @pengoala: personal vows, I do’s and them repeat after me for rings. Shouldn’t take that long to do it that way.

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